(Closed) Is your life going according to “plan”?

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How has your life turned out so far?
    much better than expected : (37 votes)
    35 %
    not as good as I expected : (28 votes)
    26 %
    pretty much according to plan : (29 votes)
    27 %
    other : (12 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    11113 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Shirinjoon: My Fiance is also the best thing to have happened to me and he is more than I wished for. I voted for pretty much according to plan as all I need now is a job I love.

    Post # 4
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    1890 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I feel blessed to be where I am at age 23.  I have a job, a house, and a man who loves me and is marrying me in just over 2 months.  And two little fluffy dogs 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m married and things in that area are good, but my professional life has floundered! Right now I’m just trying to find my way in work! What should I really be doing. I feel like after all this I have nothing to say for myself, no great job or degree. Just a flop and finding my way out of this hole isn’t easy. Especially finacially.

    Post # 6
    Member
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think the detours are the best part of life, actually. For example, I went to grad school like I planned. But, it was the unexpected project I became a part of that sent me all over the world that completely changed me in an amazing way. I got married just like I always thought I would, but it’s the freedom of spirit we share that’s letting us both put our careers on hold to travel through Asia for half a year.

    I think the best things that have happened to me all surround my breaking out of my “American Dream” cookie cutter life plan. Things have been so much better and more interesting since that revolution happened for me!!

    Post # 7
    Member
    3521 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We planned to wait to get married until this November (I’m graduating in May), but other than that, according to plan!

    Post # 8
    Member
    296 posts
    Helper bee

    Hardly a day goes by that I don’t lament where I am in life right now. I am mentally ill, and although it is now being controlled with medication and therapy for the most part, it really turned my life upside down until not too long ago. I’m not where I’d hoped I’d be from a professional standpoint, and it has carried over into my personal life as well. I don’t want to go into more detail than that, but I get frustrated sometimes at having been so affected by something so beyond my control. 

    I know things will improve eventually, it’s just hard to wait and work for it. 

    Post # 9
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    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I voted other because my life is very different than I anticipated, and it’s only better or worse depending on your measure and what you ascribe importance to. I thought I’d be out of school and employed by now. I wanted to get married around now and be buying a house and starting TTC soon. Well, I am getting married to an amazing man, but I am in grad school so no houses or babies for more years than I’d like. But grad school is a great thing in and of itself, just not what I expected. I do sometimes get a twinge for a job and to be settling down and done with the student lifestyle, but I am so close to what I want that I feel compelled to see it through at this point!

    Post # 10
    Member
    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    This is a great question.  I chose other because professionally/career wise – better than I expected.  I make way more money than I was expecting and I have job security.

    Personally – I never planned to have kids with anyone other than the person who would be my forever mate.  Along those same lines, I never planned to be married twice!  Oh well – all is well that ends well – engaged to be married to a wonderful man who loves my son (and I love his daughter!).  Also I never planned to be where I am as far as a location, but again, the job has landed me here.

    Post # 11
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    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It’s not really going according to my original plan. I had always assumed that the 4 year university that I began college at would be the one that I graduated from. Instead I left after my first year, came back home and have been taking mostly time off with some classes scattered here and there ever since. I’m glad it turned out that way though! If I hadn’t come home I wouldn’t have met Fiance at just the right time. If we had met any later one or both of us may have taken drastically different directions.
     
    According to the new plan everything is going great!! We both have careers, a house and we’re getting married a little over 2 years after we got together. We’re planning on having children within the next 3-4 years and we are both happy with that! Hopefully I’ll be working on getting my degree this fall so I can get that taken care of also 🙂

    Post # 12
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    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think for the most part (timelines of home ownership, engagement, planned wedding etc…) I’m right on target with my general thought on the subject. As far as my Fiance, he’s PERFECT and way better than I planned for myself!

    We’ll just have to see if kids come in at the time I had in mind, but even if they don’t the more important parts will have been on time. Kids to me never really had much of a timeline as long as they occur.

    Post # 13
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My personal life has gone completely according to plan yet is also better than I could have imagined.  Darling Husband is wonderful and I know we’ll have an amazing life together.  Plus we have our wonderful furbaby and look forward to the days when we start having children and expand our family.  We’re already talking about looking into buying a house/townhome/condo and things seem to be moving along exactly as I hoped.

    My professional life has turned out not so great.  I never expected to have such difficulty two years ago getting a job after college.  I’m lucky that I did end up in a well paying job at a great company but I HATE what I do.  I literally dread getting out of bed each morning and going into work because of it.  Luckily Darling Husband loves his job and I try to remain thankful that I at least have a well paying job with a good company since many don’t have that in today’s economy.  But I certainly look forward to the day that I can do something I don’t loathe for 40 hours each week.

    Post # 14
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    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Professionally, it’s kind of meh. Shirinjoon, I might be one of those miserable lawyers you speak of. I’ll give it a couple more years before I decide, but at the moment I can’t see myself staying in this profession. It’s going to give me grey hairs and heart problems.

    Personally, it’s not exactly according to the plan I made when I was 16, it’s even better! Darling Husband is waaaaay hotter than my nerdy teenager self ever thought I could get, but he’s also super smart, funny, and sweet, the whole package. We’re married, we just bought a condo, we both have good jobs, we’re crazy about each other. We count ourselves pretty darn lucky.

    I have great friends who I adore, and I’m getting along better with my parents than I imagined possible, which is a huge bonus.

    So yeah, not perfectly according to plan, but life rarely happens that way. Overall, I’m quite pleased with the way things have turned out. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Life is going basically according to plan. Except I thought I would be a little older when I got married/had kids (around 26-30) but I’m getting married right after I turn 24 and we want babies ASAP after that.

    Post # 16
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    3981 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My plan was to gradutae high school, go to college, graduate college, have a career, meet a guy and get married, have kids, etc. Instead I met a guy in Highschool, graduated highschool, will graduate college, marry said guy a month and a half later, career and then kids. Not according to plan perse but I think it turned out better so far!

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