Post # 1
Hi there Hive!
I have been dating my bf for almost 3 years now and there has been some times where I just wanted to scream because his mom makes too many decisions in his life. Haha Sometimes I am worried that when we move out together we are just not going to work because he will expect me to fill in for his mom. For example, cook for him, clean for him, make his lunch for him, fill out forms for him, make doctor appointments for him…. yes his mom does all this and he is 21. haha.
I just wanted to see how many of you ladies are in love with a mama’s boy? and if you could possibly give me some insight on how you dealt with it that would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance ladies!
Post # 3
Nope. His mother is really pushy and invasive, and we’re all about boundaries.
Post # 4
He loves his mother, but I wouldn’t call him a “mama’s boy”. He’s been very independant for years (well except that he never did his own laundry before we moved out lol). My mother always told me I should find someone who loves his mother but doesn’t rely on her either.
Post # 5
He is definitely a mamma’s boy. BUT he completely understands boundaries and she doesn’t. She likes to do everything and so it’s hard living with her because I have to do it before she can sometimes. He knows I’m his soon-to-be wife and he respects that. He values my opinion over hers a lot of the time and knows how important it is to me that he lets me do things.
Post # 6
Hes not a mama’s boy in the sense that she is overly controlling and he is totally dependent, but its obvious that she cherishes him and that he would do anything for her. Their relationship is something that I really love about him.
Post # 7
Nope, not at all – he isn’t very close to his parents, and this stems from the way they treated him growing up. He wan’t abused, he just never felt really loved from his parents b/c they arn’t very warm and inviting people, even with their own son 🙁
Post # 8
Yessss, Fiance is a Mama’s Boy. I love her to death myself and I appreciate the fact that he loves and respects his mom. However, he is an only child and that has taken a toll on his mom throughout our engagement. She admitted that she cried nearly everyday for about 6 months after we got engaged. Now let me say, she LOVES me as her own daughter (or at least thats how its been portrayed to me for the past 5 years) and she is super excited about us getting married. I guess its just hard for her to let go. He is 22 years old, but went to college less than an hour away from home, so she has always had him close by. He is really good about setting boundaries and all that good stuff. I guess we’ll see how it goes after we get married…
Post # 9
He’s just a people pleaser, period. Mom and dad included. He hates upsetting people or being unaccomodating. He’s a total gentleman which is part of what I love about him, but there were times when we first started living together where I’d have to firmly remind him that he is grown 30 year old man who is allowed to put his foot down if something doesn’t work for us. Mostly at Christmas time was the worst, balancing both our familis and his divorced and then remarried parents is more stressful than it is enjoyable – but I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels that way! Haha.
Post # 10
Darling Husband is and he isn’t. He definitely loves his mom A LOT and confides in her, but he always knows how to stand up to her and won’t let her walk all over him. They have a great relationship.
Post # 11
He is in no way a mama’s boy. His mother is horrible and never treated him as a mother should treat a son. I’m so grateful he stands up for himself and for me too 🙂
Post # 12
@Koala Bear: I can totally relate to the way you feel. My SO is definitely a Mama’s boy, but he is also very self-reliant because he comes from a lower-class inner city home. His family is great & I love them! I really appreciate that my Future Mother-In-Law is so sweet to me, and she would do anything for either of us. I think my relationship with my SO is as special and productive (for lack of a better term) as it is because of the affection and love that he and his Mother have shared. I think it’s true that we learn to value our partners based on our childhood experiences with the opposite sex, luckily his mother is wonderful & he has a soft spot for her.
Post # 13
He is a mama’s boy but not in the sickly annoying way, just in a way of full admiration for him, Future Mother-In-Law is closer to him than she is to her daughter my Future Sister-In-Law.
Post # 14
My FH adores his mom and so do I. But she is absolutely wonderful. She has never, ever, ever tried to control his life in anyway. She’s totally a live and let live type. If anything, he is extremely attached to her (especially because she has health issues) and I love him for that.
Post # 15
I think Fiance used to be a mama’s boy before he met me, now his parents hate him because of me.. sad.. but at least hes not a mama’s boy anymore, hes mine 🙂