(Closed) Is your man a romantic??

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you help your man?
    Never. He's on his own. : (12 votes)
    14 %
    Only if he asked for help : (41 votes)
    48 %
    Yes! What's the big deal : (33 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    FH isn’t super romantic but neither am I. He’s not good with flowers or anythng, but he’s really good at remembering little things I’ve said I liked but refused to buy for myself. Like this past Christmas he gave me a necklace with a paw print on it. I’d seen it almost a year ago, said I liked it, and he remembered. It’s the little things like that that make me realize that he’s being romantic in his own little way. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I wouldn’t say Fiance is the most romantic guy, but he showers me with compliments daily (I’m getting spoiled now that we live together) and he sure does listen to what I say. This christmas he went to great lengths to buy me a motar and pestle because I had mentioned wanting one three years ago. He didn’t manage to keep it secret and I had to keep suggesting stores to him because he couldn’t find what he wanted, but it was his idea in the first place. When it comes to picking out flowers and such I’m a bit of a plant expert (I intend to go to grad school to study crop diseases) so he likes to have my input on that kind of thing but I do get flowers in the end:)

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My SO is kind of romantic, but very practical. So he would never buy flowers unless he was told beforehand that I wanted them! He will pick wildflowers from the meadow around our house and make a bouquet if I’ve been away for a few days, but the only time he bought flowers for me was last Valentine’s Day, when I hinted broadly that I would like flowers, when we were discussing an acquaintance of ours who does especially lovely florist work.

    What if you were to tell him some types of flowers you like, and point out a florist in town you have noticed? Or is there none, thus the buying online? I think it would be easier on him if he could go into a florist shop and look at things, rather than ordering from pictures on a website. But that’s just my opinion– maybe for him it’s less intimidating than getting them in person!

    I wouldn’t allow it to go so far as you picking out your own flowers; I think the surprise of him choosing something he thinks you’ll like is part of it. I guess it depends how lost he is with the whole thing. Could you send him links of a couple florist websites and a short list of the flowers you like? 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @Eckle:  Ooh, goody, you’re a plant expert? Yay, I’m not alone! I’m a botanist and am in grad school for environmental education and field ecology! Fun to find another plant “geek” on here! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

    Sorry OP, didn’t mean to threadjack, I just got excited!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I already told Darling Husband I had better be getting flowers at work on Valentine’s Day lol. I wouldn’t go so far as to pick them out though!

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Darling Husband will probably not be inclined to get me flowers unless he brings them home himself. We used to have a LDR before we got engaged, and it was one debacle after another when he attempted to have them sent. For example, in one year alone, he sent flowers for my bday, V-day, etc. All the arrangements had something wrong with them such as they were half-dead, the delivery didn’t come until 9 pm, the delivery guy tried to hit on me, and they even accidentally sent me someone’s consolation flowers for a funeral!!! 

    He does so many things for me everyday to show me how much he loves me. I’m ok with not having flowers.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wouldn’t be opposed to helping him, but honestly my Darling Husband is romantic and has always done those type of things on his own, so I have never thought about it!

    Post # 10
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think Fiance is more romantic than I am!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I once gave my SO a list of “cheap romance ideas” because he consistently thought that romance had to be pricey and that was his excuse for not doing it, lol.

    I wouldn’t go so far as to show him WHAT flowers, but I would try to take the pressure off. Just say – you can get ANY flowers at the grocery store, I just want to feel special ๐Ÿ™‚ Then let him choose. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Creiddylad:  I’m actually a bit closer to a fungus expert, but people just look at me weird when I say that. I do know quite a bit about plants though, I minored in plant bio, and actually work as a researcher in the Plant Bio department of the university the I went to. I work on 2 fungi though. There aren’t any plants involved but theoretically they could be someday if I can just get this to work.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    pinking them out is a bit much lol. You’ve already laid out your expectations now it is up to him to do the foot work. he can go online and order what looks nice to him or even stop in and check out what your local florist has. he can also ask for help from a friend. Let him do it on his own becuase not only willit be more exciting for you but he will feel good about it too and may even start doing romantic things that more often. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    As far as jerks buying flowers…I don’t know about other ladies…but the jerks I have dated in the past, never bought me anything so…

    As far as my husband, he gave up buying me flowers because I don’t take care of them and I told him I prefer wine and chocolate! lol…. so now he gets me that or will cook me dinner every now and then. So, I did tell him what I prefer but I don’t choose for him. He does it on his own.

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee

    My Dh isn’t romantic, either!  I will be telling him flat out I would like flowers on V-day, too. ๐Ÿ™‚  I wouldn’t pick them out, though, although I will tell him I love Costco’s arrangements! 

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Darling Husband doesn’t have one romantic bone in his body. I’ve flat out told him I would LOVE to receive flowers at random times but especially on my birthday and valentines day. I didn’t get any on my birthday and I probably shouldn’t get my hopes up for valentines day either.

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