(Closed) is your man silent in bed?

• Miss Lilac
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s about a happy medium. Too vocal would probably make me laugh, but too quiet is just kind of creepy. Lol.

ETA: Maybe you should give him some positive reinforcement… just tell him you think it’s sexy when he does start making some noises.

• napabridekelsey
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: August 2011

• Megan316
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

• SouthernGirl
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: March 2014

FH isn’t very vocal, but he does let me know that he likes whatever I’m doing. But, I’m not very vocal either so it doesn’t bother me that much.

• claireos
• 10 years ago

Ok. I know it’s Too Much Information. But… I’m very vocal when I drink. But the only time he’s ever moderately vocal is when I’ve taken the lead in being drunkenly overly vocal. Sober? Sometimes you could hear a pin drop. It’s SUPER distracting. Like, do I stop? I am boring you? Hello? You’re still here right? 🙂

• KateByDesign
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

I have a church mouse!  I hate it!  I try to get him to be more vocal but he says that it doesn’t come naturally to him to make noises and just makes him feel awkward.

So, I have to make enough noises for the both of us!

• Sulli301
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

My DH will talk a little bit and make some subtle noises but he isn’t too vocal. Sometimes I wish he was a little bit more but I think he would be if I told him that—I think I will haha this threads got us all thinking 🙂 I also depends on what kind of sex we are having….are we being sweet and romantic or is it more sexy sex…if that makes sense! haha

@claireos that’s pretty normal I think—my husband and I are both a little louder after a few 😛

• oracle
• 10 years ago

Mine is way too quiet for my tastes.  He makes some moaning/enjoyment type noises – but few and far between.

For those that have had success changing this – what exactly did you say?  

I feel like I’ve tried EVERYTHING (telling him it’s a turn-on, etc.)  I think he doesn’t fully understand just how big a turn on it would be for me.  

He actually says it’s a TURN OFF if I’m too vocal and talk.  I think it’s a TURN OFF that he’s not.  Anyone have any advice for how to cope and/or ideas???

• Oneeleven
• 10 years ago

My Fiance is French.  And lettmetellya… It’s all true what ‘they’ say about French lovers!

He is really vocal, but not PornStar-running commentary style, just ….very expressive

• piglet_625
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: January 1991

DH is in between.  He’s usually more quiet, but towards the ‘finish’ he gets more vocal.  Since we just started having sex a month and a half ago, being too vocal makes him finish earlier than he would like, so when he’s quiet, he’s trying to concentrate on lasting, then gets more vocal when he knows he can.

Maybe that’s why most guys are quiet?  I don’t know… ask yours! 😉

• Masala
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

Sounds are probably my biggest turn on, but Fiance rarely makes a peep, until he’s about to blow, lol. Maybe I’ll tell him to crank up the volume a bit. In bed, I would say my style is ‘When Harry Met Sally’, but it’s sort of awkward when I’m the only one making noise.

Is anyone else INCREDIBLY turned on by certain songs? Closer by NIN, certain Dave Matthews songs. I would probably have sex with a piece of sheet music if it was single. 

• MsLotus
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2012

@Masala: Closer by NIN! Definitely a turn on for me,  and Corrupt You by Depeche Mode (kinda dark but I dig it!) and don’t laugh but I still love Freak Me by Keith Sweat! haha

My man is generally pretty quiet right until the end, but we’ve talked about it before and I always try to gently encourage more noises, if he does well afterward I’ll tell him “babe I loved when you moaned/said ____, you being vocal is a big turn on!”  If I’m on top he’ll smile at me like a little kid at the candy store, it’s so funny!!  Sometimes I have to look away so I don’t bust out laughing lol