(Closed) Is your person the person you expected to end up with?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your person fit your expectations of what he was going to be?
    Nope, it is completely different : (70 votes)
    51 %
    Yes, exactly : (49 votes)
    36 %
    Kind of - I wish he was slightly different : (18 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Nope, not the person I thought I’d end up with at all. FI is very very different from the man I imagined I would marry.

    He is not perfect, but he is my prince charming. And I love him. ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    ETA: maybe you could add a poll?

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Hahaha–great thread.  My answer would be ummm, nope.

    Let’s see–I listen to country music and radio pop, he plays and listens to heavy metal.  He’s got long hair and a big black truck, and I’ve always been attracted to cleancut military guys.  Other than the superficial differences, I feel as though he is my best friend, and I was really lucky to find him.

    I caught him cuddling our Boston Terrier the other day because he came in from the drizzling cold and he was shivering.  He was drying him off with a towel and whispering how he should know better than to stay outside in the cold.  *sigh*

    Post # 6
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    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @notabee: Oh lets see…

    What makes him different than I expected:

    Fiance is 13.5 years older, his formal education is less than I expected, he is covered in tattoos, is not big on dancing *sad face*, was not Catholic, has a bit (to say the least) of a rough past, is a divorcee, shaves his head, doesn’t know how to tie a tie (never really had to), grew up deep in the country, used to ride bulls, I love proper grammar and let’s just say Fiance doesn’t usually speak it.. lol, watches a little more t.v than I’d care for, and that’s all I can think of right now…

    What I love about him:

    He is so genuine, understanding, generous, loving, faithful/loyal, loovvveeesss children (but doesn’t have any yet, thank goodness! so it’s up to us to make the babies =)), a very hard worker, incredibly sharp (and sharp witted), has converted to being Catholic (his choice), adventurous, likes the outdoors, he is a tinkerer and can make/fix just about anything- the perfect handyman, he’s tall and skinny (but broad-shouldered and manly) and muscular just like I like, eager to please but knows what he wants/likes as well, affectionate, loves “little hounds” and is very sweet to all animals, open to just about anything, his interests are very broad (almost as broad as mine! haha), very supportive to any interests or endeavors that I have, very knowledgeable when it comes to home-buying/finances/etc., extremely responsible and puts so much thought and consideration to any decision before he actually makes it, can sing so well that it makes everyone quiet just to listen to him, and he will dance with me and twirl me when the mood is right. That’s just skimming the surface. ๐Ÿ™‚

    ETA: So I guess all the important bits that were subconsciously important to me I can check off “the list”. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    I voted: Kind of – I wish he was sort of different because it fit best.  But, actually, I dont’ wish he was different, I just expected different.

    I actually turned him down kinda harshly when he asked me out in undergrad because I just couldn’t see it at all, even though we were best friends.  And, after graduate school, he still kind of had to coerce me into dating him.  Thank goodness he’s so persistent (and apparently smarter than me about thsi whole relationship thing).

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @LemonLavender: ha! Same way with us! J knew right off the bat that he wanted to marry me, but I was like…”ehhhh I don’t really know…this isn’t what I bargained for!” He was persistent and asked me to just please give him an honest chance. I’m so glad I did. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You need an “other” option!  Or maybe it depends on how you are looking at it.  I never had a picture in my mind of what my perfect match would look like.  I did, however, have an idea of what I wanted my guy to *be* like.  I wanted someone who was gentle, kind, loving, quirky, fun, good sense of humor, who enjoys life, and who loves me with all his heart.  I got that!!  When I met Anton, that non-existant picture started to fill in.  He fit everything else perfectly and was so much more then I dreamed of!

    On the other hand, I never imagined that I’d find love 6k miles away from where I was!  So maybe a bit?  I do know that he’s become my best friend and my better half.

    Post # 10
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    1761 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I was expecting someone tall, dark, and significantly older than me. I expected he’d be artistic–an actor or a poet or something. Very debonair and romantic. He would be a big reader, and quite intellectual.

    Fiance is only a couple inches taller than me, and ten months younger! He’s also a nerdy engineer. He’s not the kind of romantic I was imagining (giving roses, making me dinner, bringing me breakfast in bed. . .), but is romantic in his own way  by taking care of me and always being there. He’s not much of a reader, and he’s certainly not an intellectual–but he’s incredibly intelligent and knows all about the more practical things in life.

    But he is genuine, honest, and sweet. He completely supports me even when I’m crazy (you know we all are sometimes!). He is very outgoing and social, which complements my introversion perfectly. I have so many great experiences now because he made me come out of my shell. He also set up an incredible entertainment center and fixes things around the house that I wouldn’t even begin to know how to do. We are also very similar (good) in our spending/saving habits, so that makes me very comfortable going into the future. He makes me feel so safe, secure, and loved.

    Post # 11
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    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was about 19 when I realized that Fiance and I would be perfect together. We lost touch and went our separate ways a couple of years later. I dated other people but I think always kind of compared them to him.  We finally started dating when I was 25.  So yes, I think he’s close to what I expected, even though I definitely dated a variety of people before him, just to make sure, haha. 

    Post # 12
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    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    My Fiance is bang on the nose, exactly what I’ve always dreamed of, mind wise, personality, attitude, career wise, looks wise, every single thing.  The only thing I thought was that I would end up with a brunette, not a blond.

    I feel lucky every single day!  (sorry for gushing)

    Post # 13
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Darling Husband is nothing like what I thought I would end up with. Some are superficial and others are more serious.  First Darling Husband has a son and I didn’t think that I would ever date a man with kids (again had a bad experience), I had always dated really manly dirty construction worker types, and he is more metro sexual.  He is really extroverted and I really love more nerdy quiet types. Darling Husband is a very big guy which I didn’t think I would like. He has hair, always attracted to bald guys or more closely shaven hair. His family is truly insane and I was looking for someone who had a family more similar to mine.  We are of different religious and ethnic backgrounds. Our educations are totally mismatched. On paper we make no sense ๐Ÿ™‚ In person we are perfect together.

    Post # 14
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I cant vote because none of the options apply to me. he is not exactly the person I thought I would end up with but I dont “wish he was slightly different” I’m happy with him just the way he is.

    Post # 15
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    1550 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    he is completely what i thought he would be–and more.

    my husband is the most amazing man i have ever met in my entire life, and he treats me better then i ever thought a boyfriend or husband could.

    i knew that i wanted these things in a guy:

    -funny

    -intelligent, passionate about learning

    -loves jesus

    -outgoing, strong personality

    -organized

    he has all of these things but times ten! so i guess he is exactly what i thought i would end up with, but different at the same time.

    sometimes i feel like i have no idea what i could have done to deserve him!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @MissDareDevil:  sometimes i feel like i have no idea what i could have done to deserve him!

    I 2nd that completely!  

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