Post # 1
On another thread, about DJ’s, this was said.
“I’m definitely going to have a “no-play” list (anything country, the electric slide, etc) and a few “must play” songs that are important to my Fiance and I. Other than that, we’re directing the DJ to play songs from the 90’s-00’s when we were in High School and College.”
Nothing wrong with this, but, as a Wedding Entertainment Coordinator (glorified DJ), this topic comes up often in the music selection stage of the planning process.
While this play/no play list will be great fun for the B&G and their contemporaries it raises the question… Will your DJ play some music the parents, grand parents and the other older guests might enjoy dancing to? I’m talking about the people who loved the B&G from the moment they were born. These guests are also the ones who normally bring the nicest gifts.
What say you?
Post # 3
The reception should be for the guests, IMO. I think it’s ok to have a NO PLAY list because there are some songs that dont belong at a wedding reception. But for the most part, guests should be allowed to request songs and hear their favorite dance music!
Post # 4
We’re going the ipod route but we’re definitely trying to mix “our” music with music our guests would be happy with. Mostly we’re doing this by taking songs we really really love (but others might not know) and playing them during the cocktail hour or dinner when we don’t expect that people will be dancing. Then for the dancing part of the night we have a mix of everything from the 40s-current. We’re constructing the play list in a way that makes sense to us and flows, but is heavy on the older/more crowd pleasing music early in the night and saves music that probably just us and our friends want to dance to until the last hour or so when most of the older folks will be done dancing. 🙂
Post # 5
We let the DJ do their thing. They had been to and played at many more weddings than I have planned and so I trusted them. They did such a good job.
We had a younger wedding; however, young people (or at least my friends) love oldies and so everyone loved all the music.
As the night got later they started playing more and more ‘young’ music!
Post # 6
Im having a Friday night wedding, and I understand guests are going to be a tad put off coming from work to a wedding. I am going to be doing everything and all in my power to make the entire reception something the guests will enjoy! Granted, a majority of the people that will be there are party animals so I will be doing a lot of the current music, but everything is fair game! I want my guests to have the time of their lives.
Post # 7
I never thought about this but yes, you need to be playing music for everyone to enjoy, not just the b&g and 20 other guests. I’d be pretty chafed if I went to a wedding and they played only one genre of music the whole time – boorriing.
Post # 8
aww i love country music! but when making my list i found some of them were hard to dance too..my list is mostly for me 🙂 but i did think about my guests – my wedding will be a much younger crowd so i feel my choices will be well liked. i did make a no play list as well – i didnt want to do the electric slide – but we are…my DJ said you can do the electric slide to boom boom pow by black eyed peas and it works perfectly – so i told him to go for it. but no electric slide music – no chicken dance – no YMCA – im down for the cupid shuffle though – it always gets people moving. I told him to allow requests – especially from older guests but try and stick to my list.
after reading this i feel like i need to add some oldies (but goodies) on there for the parents aunts and uncle – just not sure what songs.
Post # 9
I have talked to our band and gave them a list of ‘must-play’ songs 🙂 … songs that I have imagined myself dancing with my wedding gown, songs that make me and my fiance laugh, and songs that everyone can enjoy. They know their business so they know that if someone asks for a song that is a no-no (i.e.: if the dance includes spanking or taking clothes off …. don’t play it)
Post # 10
i don’t do goofy dancing, so none of those electric slide/chicken dance/boot scootin’ boogie/whatever songs are allowed or I’ma have to cut someone. FH and I have different taste in music and will compromise on what we play, but taking our guests into account is a given. he has rowdy Army friends and lots of older people so he’s choosing songs from the 80s/90s and newer stuff along with some big band/swing songs, while my friends are more indie and i’ll be choosing more alternative stuff. it’ll be a mix of styles that the DJ can have at to work his magic on in order to make flow well.
Post # 11
I am definitely going to think for all of my guests. I always said that I was never going to play this type of music or that type of music… but when I got engaged, I realized that my wedding is mostly about me and my fiance… and also about my family, guests, and the general celebration of the two. We love rock music, but nobody is goign to dance to that–and nobody on our guest list is even going to know the songs we like. Therefore, we are going to have to mix it up. I want all generations to feel like they are a part of the celebration.
That being said, absolutely no country. I don’t care what the circumstances. I hate country and I refuse to play it at my wedding. It’s bad enough that I have to sit through other songs I hate. Baha!
Post # 12
Keep your wedding day yours but look at those little compromises you inevitably will have to make as giving. Giving, when done with love in your heart is truly it’s own reward. The dance music provides immediate gratification. When you see people dancing and having fun, it makes you feel good right then and there.
Aas others have mentioned, as the celebration continues, the music moves from oldies to more contemporary. My experience is, the older guests will often hit the dance floor first while the younger guests take some time to warm up. A good DJ will take advantage of that and keep the dance floor moving all night ong.