(Closed) Is your SO always late?

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Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Yup, my Fiance is never on time. I’m a bit anal, and usually early so it’s a hard balance. LOL it’s come to the point where I just sit by the door and wait for him, running around with his head cut off.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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buzzinbee:  Nope! Lol! But my ex was. So I did 2 things: started telling him earlier times (then I know he’d be late, but ON time) and lowered my expectations. Haha!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

my hubby is always late! He deff does not like it when I am late though!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

My Fiance is ALWAYS running late and it drives me batty! If your on time you are late to me :p I hate being late it gives me anxiety as I find it so rude!!

I’ll tell Fiance we need to leave at 6 and he starts getting ready at 5.50 -_- and takes 15-20 min so then we are late and I’m tense- sigh! 

OR

I’ll say we are leaving at 6 and make him be ready and at 5.50 he’ll say ‘i have to go the toilet’ and spens 15 min doing that!

drives me nuts- lucky for him he has good traits as well lol 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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buzzinbee:  for the longest time my DH was always the late one while i was the punctual timely one. however i noticed lately this has changed, and he has been making more of an effort to be timely.

our biggest wake up call was our engagement photo session. we were running late, and we thought maybe the photographer could accomodate us longer. nope, our 20 minutes late equated to 20 minutes of less pictures. i was really upset about that, so i think that hit DH that timeliness is very important, and that the whole world won’t wait for you if you’re late.

some people hate going to events early–they feel like they could be doing other things at home beforehand, hate the awkward small talk chit chat while waiting for others, etc. this is what DH has said to why he’s late a lot. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

If Fiance says ‘i’ll meet you in 10’ i know that really means 20-30 mins

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

My EX was always late – drove my bonkers!

SO is usually on time, which I appreciate very much.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

oh he is ALWAYS late….unless its something super important to him. hahaha.

Drives me CRAZY. SO FREAKING CRAZY. And then I just have to always apologize. If we are meeting people for dinner and we say 6pm, he uses that as a suggestion…and we may get there at 6:20, 6:30, etc. Then I end up texting everyone apologizing. Of course our friends and family are used to it by now and they anticipate it.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m the late one in the family. For the most part, DH takes it in stride. But if we have, have, have to be somewhere on time this is what we do–he walks me through the process. “So we have to be in the car by 6:00. Which means you need to be ready by 5:45 (so I can have some wiggle room LOL). It usually takes you 30 mins to shower, dress and walk out the door. But for this you need make-up and completely done hair, how long will that take? Okay, so you need 1 hour to shower and get ready. So that means you have to be in the shower at 4:45. That means you need to wrap up whatever you are doing by 4:30.” 

I know it seems childish, but I really do have a problem thinking backwards like that (thank you ADD). And time is a mystery to me. 5 mins and 5 hours all feel the same to me. So DH will also give me a count down–Sweetie in 1 hour you need to be in the shower. Honey, 30mins. Don’t forget in 10 mins you need to…

I don’t think this will work for everyone with a time issue. But I gave DH permission to help me. And he doesn’t do this all the time, just when absolutely necessary. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

No but my ex was, I hated it! My daughter’s friends are awful, drives us both mad. Mobile phones have made it much worse I think. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I drive Fiance nuts with being on time. I hate hate hate being late where as he is the kind to hit snooze until the very last second possible. So I wind up getting everything ready for both of us where literally it’s get a shower and put on clothes… the rest is ready, whatever it may be…

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

DH and I began dating in a college town where no one had a car, so we would agree to meet places. I took to leaving after 15 minutes if I had not heard from him (this was before cell phones). Once HE was the one left waiting, it suddenly wasn’t okay, and he shaped up pretty quickly. My time is valuable and being late is incredibly disrespectful. I would not allow my self to be treated disrespectfully by someone who was supposed to value me and enjoy my company.

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