(Closed) Is your SO protective of his cell phone?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

No, but my ex-husband was protective of his… probably because he had pictures of a friend topless on it. I don’t know that you definitely need to worry, but it is weird behavior, especially the showering thing and that he doesn’t jsut plug it in to charge inside and leave it there while he does other stuff elsewhere.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

He takes it to the shower and bathroom with him? That’s a bit much I think! Does he have a code on it to lock it as well? 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Darling Husband isn’t. He lets me play with it, call from it, has given me all his passwords etc. I take mine to the loo and in when I shower, but that’s because I’m obsessive about not missing calls and I’m quite happy for him to use it a lot of the time. It’s easy to get to be paranoid about people looking over your shoulder but it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s doing anything wrong.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Those behaviors sound a little weird to me.Have you ever casually asked about it?

My Darling Husband takes it to the potty with him because, well, he’s in there for a while and he looks at comics. haha Otherwise, he charges it when it dies, and if I use it, he doesn’t care.

I would just ask… he might even realize he’s acting “weird.”

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Dh is completely unprotective of his phone, at least at home.  He will have me answer texta for him, listen to voicemails, but Dh hates technology so a lot of his lack of protectiveness is out of hating his phone altogether.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

No. We answer each others cell phones all the time.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t like that either. It could be suspicious behavior, but… on a positive note:

Are you engaged or waiting to be?? I know that a lot of men can start to be protective over their smart phones around the time they are ring shopping or planning something special for you. You did the right thing by addressing your concerns with him, even though he could be hurt if he feels that you don’t trust him. 

That being said, there are a lot of cheating stories that have suspicious behavior that start with hiding their phone which would make me feel uncomfortable too.  The one that I find the weirdest is charging his phone in his car instead of in the house.

My husband leaves his phone unattended and doesn’t mind me using it either.  My friend became suspicious of her SO’s password and phone hiding, but he was doing so because he had emails and communication with a jewler when he was designing her ring before he proposed. 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That is alittle odd. I put my phone on silent most of the time so that I am not chained to it, but this dosn’t seem the case with your SO as he seems to keep it on his person at all times. I am not secretive with it or keep it hidden in a way and neither does my husband with his phone. I just find myself getting annoyed by the device and just think it inconsiderate to have it on when I am out with people. My ex did this secretive business but he was also cheating on me at the time so…. not that I am saying this is what your SO is doing. That is just what it reminded me of.

I think this is a question you need to ask him….

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d consider that behavior pretty conspicuous. Some of those behaviors are not too weird, but bringing it with him to the bathroom seems like a pretty conscious decision rathr than habit. My Fiance isn’t like that at all, and none of my previous boyfriends have been either.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No, my husband isn’t protective of his phone in the slightest.

That doesn’t necessarily mean that something’s up. Yes, maybe he’s hiding something from you…but it could be that he just likes privacy and feels like you’re snooping on him. Or maybe he’s been ring shopping and has pictures/texts on there he doesn’t want you to see. Or he could have been asking a friend for relationship advice. There are tons of perfectly legitmate reasons why he might want you to leave his phone alone.

Looking at your previous post, the bigger issue is that you and your SO don’t seem to communicate very effectively. You say you want to get married to him, but you don’t even seem to know whether or not you can trust him or what his intentions are. I think you should just talk to him about what’s on your mind, instead of asking a bunch of complete strangers to help you speculate about why he’s acting this way.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

What happens if you pick it up or touch it?

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Fiance loves his gadgets, so when he goes to “do his business” he usually takes his phone to play on. However, he often asks me to play games to earn him points, or to check messages or something on his phone, so he’s not secretive about it. I do think your SO’s behavior is odd, and I’d be suspicious. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Not really.  He takes it to the bathroom to surf the net or play games because he gets bored sitting on the toilet.  I answer the phone for him if he can’t get to it in time and it’s his parents calling.  He has me send texts and make calls for him if we’re in the car and he’s driving.  

The only time he’s really protective of it is if we’re outside and it’s raining.  He just doesn’t want it to get wet, so he puts it in my purse.  But there’s nothing suspicious about that.  I’d find it really weird if my husband was doing the stuff your SO does, though.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My H and I each do some of these things. It’s possible that he just likes to keep his phone near him and values his privacy.

Do you have any other reasons to be suspicious? Is this a new behavior or has he always done it?

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