(Closed) Is your SO/Fiance/Husband…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: In a world where there are no physical relationships, would your SO still be your best friend?

    Definitely! We're get along awesomely and have everything in common and always have fun together

    Most likely! We have a great relationship, but there could be someone else more suited as a friend!

    Probably?! We'd be good friends at least... We'd sometimes fight, but best friends do that too!

    Maybe. We get along well, but without the physical aspect, there might not be quite enough!...?

    Probably not. We get along, but the attraction/physical part and attraction is pretty important!

    Highly doubtful. What's a relationship without sexual attraction?? I have other friends for that!

    Definitely not! I have other best friends already! Physical/sexual attraction is necessary!

    I'm not sure... hmm... It's pretty difficult to distinguish the two from each other, so I can't tell

    I have more than one "best" friend. They're just... different. So this doesn't apply to me really

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    NOW he would be, but in the beginning I’m not sure if we would have ever spoken if we hadn’t wanted to get in each other’s pants lol. And if we had somehow become friends, he would want to go play sports or something and I’d want to go see a play, so we wouldn’t hang out much. As just friends we never would have learned all the other things we enjoy doing together, wouldn’t spend hours snuggling on the couch watching sitcoms, etc etc, it would have never gotten past the first hurdle of getting to know each other. We started as attraction and then after several months realized “hmmm, I actually enjoy hanging out with you, not just making out with you”. He’s my best friend now, but I don’t think I ever would have come to that place without the physical attraction first.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    DH was actually one of my closest friends for 7 years before we started dating so yes he would still be my best friend.

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I always tell him he’s my best friend and I truly mean that!

    Post # 20
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Yep! We were friends first and still are.

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Probably not. We dont have a lot in common that would bring us together. We would definitely be friends but i dont know about BEST friends since our interests are so different. 

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Yes, I think that even if we weren’t married and only had a platonic relationship, he would still be my best friend. We always have the best time together! Even when we’re doing nothing. We have enough in common to be drawn together, but with enough differences that our relationship and friendship stays interesting.

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee

    As a lesbian, I actually had zero intention of dating him when we met.  In fact, he’s the first guy I’ve dated since HS (I am 30).  We hit it off as friends, and I was trying to be his wingman at first.  We texted a TON and found out we got along famously.  One day, he went to hug me goodnight and there was… oh my god so much tension, I wanted to kiss him sooooo badly.  It took several days? weeks? (time is weird) for me to get up the courage to make a move.  I was terrified that he would get attached and I would be, well, gay again.  It’s been a year and that spark hasn’t faded.

    So, yes.  I think we would be fantastic friends!

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee

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    @Sunfire:  I love reading your posts about your guy, they just give me warm fuzzies everytime.

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Fiance and I were friends for 8 years before we started dating each other. so while we do sometimes bicker with little arguments, i voted #2, Most Likely.  

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @ciel:  Aw, thanks, that’s very sweet of you to say.  I just got back from lunch with him.  🙂  He’s a sweetheart.

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have a few best friends(FI included) and my very best female friend and I constantly joke because my Fiance is essentially the male version of her and her DH is the male version of me. So it’s like getting to marry your best friend on 2 levels lol. But yes Fiance is my best friend and even if we didn’t have a physical relationship there is still no one else I would want to spend the rest of my life with.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m not sure, to be honest.  Our relationship unfolded because we started hanging out as friends and as we got to know each other, our romantic feelings and physical attraction became prevelant.  I do consider him one of my best friends though, but I think that grew with the relationship.  Before we started dating, we knew of each other and had some mutual friends but we didn’t really know one another so it wasn’t like that.  We basically started hanging out as friends and within a couple of months we began dating so that’s all we know 🙂

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Yep, we were best friends for 8 years before dating without physical contact.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted Definitely but we don’t have EVERYTHING in common and I think that makes our friendship & relationship that much stronger.  If we literally agreed on/were interested in everything, we couldn’t learn from each other.  

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yes, definitely! We were friends for a long time before we got together. I had a HUGE crush on him and didn’t think he liked me back. We worked together at the time and I stalked him. Haha.

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