(Closed) Is your SO's hobby a decorating eyesore in your home?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@okqueenbee:  Darling Husband is a very serious home brewer of beer, and so there is pretty much always one or two fermenters sitting in our dining room. They ferment in the garage at first, but then when they need to get warmer, they come in the house. Like you, we have nowhere else for them to go. So our dining room is taken up by these huge plastic jugs full of fermenting beer, and you can’t even use two of the chairs at the table because the fermenters are in the way. Sigh.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

for us, it’ll be Legos… In some ways I’m looking forward to it (finally living together will be nice!!) but I know it’s not my decorating style.  🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t really walk into my husband’s art studio because I’ll find something to complain about. Granted I have to pass it every time I walk up or down the stairs. He’s just not as neat as I am, so his desk is pure chaos in my eyes. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It isn’t usually an issue, but my Darling Husband loves skiing, and is even working as a ski instructor part time this winter.  The problem is he likes leaving his skis in our main floor bathroom, which is tiny as it is.  So you go into the bathroom, and about a foot infront of the toilet are skis leaning against the wall. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@weddingbee098:  Sunday weddings bother me, the working world has to report for duty at 8am…not matter who got married or not.

 Destination Weddings are also not something I attend…..because I’m not going to use my time off for a wedding…that being said, the people that will attend, your close family and friends, probably won’t mind either way so just make sure they know ahead of time what days they need off.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

DH’s main hobby is his video game I guess, so we do have a pretty substantial computer desk in our main living area. Oh well! We have a “formal” living area if we have guests over. 😛

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsTeasandkeys:  thankfully Darling Husband does his brewing in the garage now that we live in a townhouse … when we lived in an apartment he had to brew in the kitchen and the smell of the wort always made me so sick!! And of course one time he left a jug of sanitizer on the counter and the acid stained the counter so badly we had to pay for it when we moved out. Grrr!!! Haha at least the beer he makes is delicious, so I’ll allow it!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Wow.  There is NO WAY I could overlook this.  If I were in your position would  first get tested for Save-The-Date Cards and then I would find a place where I could move in FAST.  How can he justify this?  Is this something you can live with?  I couldn’t.  TBH, it mkes me feel feel sick in the pit of my stomach just reading about it.   He’s a prostitute for crying out loud!  Would he want to marry you if you slept with men for cash????

Sorry, but if  I were you I would bail.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@Jay243:  To be safe, I would get checked. If you want to be with him, and can trust this wont happen again then stay in the relationship and work on it.

Me personally, I don’t know if I could. I understand him not wanting to stress you out, but I feel that is a cowardly reason to do what he did. The two of you are wanting to start a life together, and that life should be based on trust. He didn’t tell you the issues for the two of you to decide what to do, instead it took it upon himself to do something very selfish, and dangerous. If it was me, I’d always worry “where’d he get that money” or “how’d he pay for that” not to mention, if money is tight again, I’d be afraid he’d do it again because it worked for him before.

Just be careful, and really think about what you want to do. Good luck, it sucks you’re having to go through this.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

this post just made me thankful that the only thing Mr. J has a ton of are tools (which live outside) and guitars) which are at least not bad to look at. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@okqueenbee:  Lol. I date a car nut and modeler…as in someone who makes model cars, planes, motorcycles and such. He is really good at it and has won a bunch of awards. He is so proud of them and loves to have them on display. I hated it at first…they took up the entire first floor of our house and I felt like it cluttered everything. Then we got a really nice display case from Ikea. We agreed that he could fill it up with anything he wanted, but extra items are on a shelf in the basement. It keeps his hobby from taking over the enitre common space but still shows off his talent. The case was really cheap too!

http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10119206/

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  I am dying laughing!!! Omg thats exactly how I feel!!! Lol. I totally saw the mail truck pull up and had to act all cool and collected when I really wanted to like run down the driveway!! Lol 

It is a .79, F color, SI1. And its beautiful! =)

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Not really, in our house it’s mostly me LOL. I have dinosaurs everywhere. Mostly they’re concentrated on my desk’s hutch, but I also have a 3ft metal sculpture of a T. rex hanging out next to the back door. I don’t take responsibility for Rexy though, that was actually a gift from my dad for Christmas.

He does have some sports stuff and music stuff that we want to display in our “hobby room” where he has his music equipment – I want to class it up by framing the things but haven’t gotten around to it. There aren’t too many items, but there are a few record albums, a signed jersey, etc. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Jay243:  So not only did he sleep with people for money but he also cheated…and he felt this was his only option? How about talking to his Girlfriend of 3+ years? If he can’t share his problems with you now for fear of burdening you, what in the heck will he resort to years down the road if he for some reason has fertility issues? If he’s stressed or depressed? Sounds like he has a probem coming to you with issues.

I am pretty sure this was just a really good excuse to sleep around on you. If you can work past it, kudos to you. Bad enough sleeping with one person. I couldn’t imagine a whole bunch of people and putting you at risk for an STD. All in the effort not to stress you….

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