(Closed) Is your wedding sparking a "quarter-life crisis?"

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I still haven’t had thoughts like that.  I have a decent grip on our finances and I guess I haven’t really thought about our parents needing help later.  I guess we will see if it feels like that later.

 

Post # 5
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1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ItaliaBride:  I am so glad to see that I am not the only one! I feel like such a huge part of life is going to be over. No more wondering who I am going to marry, no more dreaming about what my wedding will be like. Plus all of the other things you mentioned too! 

Its bittersweet in a way! 

Post # 6
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6123 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well I’m 36, so I may have passed the quarter life moment!

Post # 7
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2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

doubly posted whoops

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ItaliaBride:  I have totally felt like that, but it may be because I lost my job and the house we thought we were going to buy in the same week.  Now I am sitting here in the same tiny apartment with him.  His siblings had babies this year and its made him finally stop pushing the baby thing now he’s pushing the opposite. 

I don’t regret committing to him and I don’t wonder if there’s anyone else out there or anything but it feels like the solidification of the I feel way too grown up syndrome.  I feel more like I am 35 than 25.  We both do.  I don’t know where the time is going and I don’t think I even really know how to go out and just be young and have fun anymore.  I feel old and tired before my time and it’s kind of sad.  

At the same time and I really hate to say this as a pretty fiercely independent woman but I am happy to get married and all.  I feel more secure and like I have a partner who will always be there for me.  I have felt this way for the past year and a half but now it’s just on paper kind of thing.  Also getting a dog makes me feel grown up too lol but I am really glad I adopted my doggie last year because while I’ve been unemployed and sad he’s really kept me cheered up.

I’m also having a total career crisis; I don’t want to be doing these jobs anymore where no one wants to pay me or take me seriously but can’t afford to go to grad school.  I’m trying to come up with something else that doesn’t feel like it’s sucking the life out of me so I can be happier.

Post # 9
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741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes…yes it has. Darling Husband and I have been together a few months shy of six years, living together for a little more than four of them…but getting married sparked certain conversations about the long term that we never really confronted in our day to day lives – such as how we deal with finances. I graduated with my MA recently, so I went from from student life to the working world while we were planning the wedding. The whole process has really made me evaulate where I want us to be and what I want to do (especially before we have children), and it hasn’t always been easy but it has certainly been worth it. 

Post # 10
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m nearly 44, so no. 

I never had a ‘quarter life’ crisis…I was too busy recovering from my divorce the year before and in remission from cancer.

Being nearly in my mid forties is far worse.  I look back with amazement at the level of drive and hope I had when I was 25.   All that seems to have been replaced with fear. 

Getting older sucks.

Post # 11
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2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Baal:  Frown.  I have a friend about your age who expressed the same concerns but her mother has passed and she has a son in college.  She is not married.

Sorry about the cancer, but, wow, congratulations for beating it!

My mom who is almost sixty always says old age sucks but it is also a privilege in your case I guess that is doubly so.  I get super anxiety thinking about being older but oh well it’ll happen (if I am lucky) and I’ll have to deal.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I totally feel the same- with us moving to a new state for my job, and him about to go back to school, I feel like the wedding is just another stress on top of what we’re dealing with. and i’m the only one with an income for a long time while he’s in school. and it only makes it worse to look at friends’ facebook pics, etc and think they must have it easier. So what helps me get through it all is thinking about how much I love my guy, and how much fun we’ll have together for the rest of our lives. It’s really important to be responsible like it seems that you are, but also take a breath sometimes! Also I try to continue hanging with friends and doing things that I enjoy. It puts things in perspective.

Post # 13
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692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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quarterlife crisis in progress

Post # 14
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

yes

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