(Closed) Is your wedding traditional, or non-traditional?

posted 3 years ago in Secular
Post # 2
2394 posts
Buzzing bee

We kept calling ours non-traditional, but in retrospect it was still pretty traditional, lol. 

We had our wedding outside rather than in a church. My DH’s Brother-In-Law married us rather than a preacher or hired officiant. We did two readings from literature and one from the bible. We both coe from Catholic families but didn’t have a full mass.

We didn’t have a bridal party. We BOTH (DH and I) walked down the aisle with both of parents (one parent on each arm, him and his parents and then me with mine). Our parents were the only ones who gave wedding toasts. We didn’t do a garter or bouquet toss. We didn’t do a “head table” – obviously, with no wedding party, lol. We didn’t decorate with flowers (we used candles). 

Hmmm what else. We spent the night together the night before the wedding. We wrote our vows together and read them to each other before the ceremony. I did a first look… with my DAD! Which, by the way, is one of my favorite memories from the whole day. 

Lots of other things I’m sure, but those are the ones that come immediately to mind! It was the best day. 🙂 *sigh*


ETA: Traditions that we followed: we kept the traditional order of the ceremony – walking down the aisle, introduction from the officiant (BIL), three readings, vows, ring exchange, etc. 

We did a traditional reception dinner with an open bar, first dance, mother/son and father/daughter dance. We had a cake and fed it to each other. We had photographers and a white dress and all the typically “wedding” things that you think of – except the above. 🙂

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 5 months ago by  Soon2bmrs1.
Post # 3
5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

augustraine1989:  Ours was very non-traditional, but we did encorporate traditional elements. 

We had a surprise wedding with just our parents on Christmas Day in DH’s parent’s front yard. Nobody knew we were getting married until it was happening. Extremely non-traditional. BUT I still wore a white dress and veil (hidden inside a wrapped present) and Darling Husband a suit, we did traditional vows, and we were married by a pastor (also a family friend). 

Post # 4
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

depends on your point of view we are using traditional celtic views pre christian take over. So im not being ‘given away’ or any of that the vows are about equality and giving ourselves freely. So its not main stream christian wedding traditional but techinically it is traditional 😉  outfits will be though idk how white my dress will be but i am doing ballgown etc

Post # 5
5038 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think for the most part my wedding will be non traditional.  Things we are not doing/having:

Zero wedding party

I’m walking myself down the aisle

Out of state wedding

30 or less guests

Dinner reception at a restaurant

No garter/or garter toss

No bouquet toss

No dancing

Post # 6
321 posts
Helper bee

augustraine1989 :  Like you, I am also having an overall traditional wedding with non-traditional elements.  We are doing a first look (I love the idea from PP of doing a first look with my dad also!), no garter/garter toss, and having our ceremony outdoors at the venue with very light religious elements.

We are keeping most of the traditional elements, like the ceremony processional/recessional, typical cocktail hour & reception, parent dances & first dance, bouquet toss, cutting of the cake, and toasts by Best Man & Matron of Honor.

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