Post # 1
I personally am having a traditional wedding, but we are doing some decidedly non-traditional things. For example, we are doing a first look.
What traditions are you following? Which ones could you care less about?
Post # 2
We kept calling ours non-traditional, but in retrospect it was still pretty traditional, lol.
We had our wedding outside rather than in a church. My DH’s Brother-In-Law married us rather than a preacher or hired officiant. We did two readings from literature and one from the bible. We both coe from Catholic families but didn’t have a full mass.
We didn’t have a bridal party. We BOTH (DH and I) walked down the aisle with both of parents (one parent on each arm, him and his parents and then me with mine). Our parents were the only ones who gave wedding toasts. We didn’t do a garter or bouquet toss. We didn’t do a “head table” – obviously, with no wedding party, lol. We didn’t decorate with flowers (we used candles).
Hmmm what else. We spent the night together the night before the wedding. We wrote our vows together and read them to each other before the ceremony. I did a first look… with my DAD! Which, by the way, is one of my favorite memories from the whole day.
Lots of other things I’m sure, but those are the ones that come immediately to mind! It was the best day. 🙂 *sigh*
ETA: Traditions that we followed: we kept the traditional order of the ceremony – walking down the aisle, introduction from the officiant (BIL), three readings, vows, ring exchange, etc.
We did a traditional reception dinner with an open bar, first dance, mother/son and father/daughter dance. We had a cake and fed it to each other. We had photographers and a white dress and all the typically “wedding” things that you think of – except the above. 🙂
Post # 3
augustraine1989: Ours was very non-traditional, but we did encorporate traditional elements.
We had a surprise wedding with just our parents on Christmas Day in DH’s parent’s front yard. Nobody knew we were getting married until it was happening. Extremely non-traditional. BUT I still wore a white dress and veil (hidden inside a wrapped present) and Darling Husband a suit, we did traditional vows, and we were married by a pastor (also a family friend).
Post # 4
depends on your point of view we are using traditional celtic views pre christian take over. So im not being ‘given away’ or any of that the vows are about equality and giving ourselves freely. So its not main stream christian wedding traditional but techinically it is traditional 😉 outfits will be though idk how white my dress will be but i am doing ballgown etc
Post # 5
I think for the most part my wedding will be non traditional. Things we are not doing/having:
Zero wedding party
I’m walking myself down the aisle
Out of state wedding
30 or less guests
Dinner reception at a restaurant
No garter/or garter toss
No bouquet toss
Post # 6
augustraine1989 : Like you, I am also having an overall traditional wedding with non-traditional elements. We are doing a first look (I love the idea from PP of doing a first look with my dad also!), no garter/garter toss, and having our ceremony outdoors at the venue with very light religious elements.
We are keeping most of the traditional elements, like the ceremony processional/recessional, typical cocktail hour & reception, parent dances & first dance, bouquet toss, cutting of the cake, and toasts by Best Man & Matron of Honor.