Post # 1
My fiance’s brother’s wife’s child, who is four, does not use a fork or knife to eat. He eats with his hands. He also doesn’t put his napkin in his lap.
Is this as appalling as I think it is, or is it normal? I don’t expect him to have impeccable table manners, but to not even pick up his fork? To not even be prompted to put his napkin in his lap?
I’m obviously not going to say anything, but still.
Post # 3
@peachacid: i wouldn’t expect a 4 year old to put a napkin on his/her lap, but he should probably be eating with a fork by now.
Post # 4
My girls aren’t saints at the table, but they know how to use utensils and napkins properly. Although, well, sometimes food falls off those utensils, but still.
ETA: My girls are 3 and 4.
Post # 5
The napkin’s no big deal, I’m 20 and only do that if I’m eating out with company. But yes, they should definitely be using a knife and fork by that age.
Post # 6
@ajillity81: Oh. My parents taught us from, like, the time we were born that you put your napkin in your lap. They prompted us at every. single. meal. “Napkins on lapkins!”
Post # 7
I work at a daycare and our 1.5 years old use all utensils, so yes he should definitely be using them. It also helps a lot with fine motor development.
Post # 8
@ajillity81: +1. Usually the parents will still need to cut up their food, but they should be eating with utensils.
Post # 9
My 16 month old eats with a fork. Granted- it’s difficult for her with some of the things she eats, so she will still use her hands, but she tries really hard.
Post # 10
Fork & Spoon by age 4 for sure… altho kids usually need friendly reminders, as they are apt to just “naturally” want to get at food with their hands.
As for a napkin… sorry but
ROTFLMAO… I’ve met ADULTS who don’t even have a clue… so I wouldn’t pretend that a 4 year old should.
(Thanks for my chuckle of the day)
Post # 11
Er…I nanny/babysit for one and two year olds who use a fork and spoon. Unless he is eating finger foods, that’s a bit odd.
Post # 12
My TWO year old daughter uses her spoon and fork properly. Her napkin doesn’t go in her lap but she has one by her place setting and knows how to use it. I work at a daycare and we teach them how to start using utensils at 1.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
4 is definitely old enough for manners like using a fork and napkin properly.
Post # 14
@peachacid: Yes, he should be able to use a fork. Shame on the parent(s) for not teaching him. Some people just seem to want to keep their children infants.
Post # 15
My 5 year old still likes to eat with her hands. Although we make her use the fork. I don’t let her cut up her food though, with a butterknife year but not a steak knife or anything.
All my kid knows about napkins is that you wipe your face when you’re done. If we were to take her out to a restaurant to eat where it would be propper to use a napkin in the lap I would put it in her lap and leave it at that. No big deal.
The kid should be able to use a fork at least though
Post # 16
Wait. I am pretty sure he just turned 5 in March. So he is FIVE.