Post # 1
ALRIGHT! I’m praying people see this (for the sake of my sanity).
I’m in my mid 20’s and my fiance and I have been together (dating) for four years now, engaged for 6 months. I have avoided any wedding planning up until about a month ago. We origionally thought we were going to get married in a little town we love in BC, Mexico but the venue wasn’t what we were hoping for and now we’re back at square one. We’re both in college, he’s finishing up his masters degree this coming June and we are PRAYING he gets a job in the teaching field, but we both are under the impression it’s extremely hard and a long process. I have been looking at Tulum, Mexico and just bringing out parents and inviting family. If they want to come, awesome! If not, we’re planning on having a huge reception with all of our friends and family members here in CA.
I’m pulling my hair out trying to figure out what to do and make this the cheapest wedding we can have. But at the end of the day, I just want to marry him and get this show on the road!!!
Help and advice would be so greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!
Post # 2
ladyinwhite13 : hi there, we just booked our elopement to Hawaii for February 2019!
we actually had a very hard time deciding on where to go, I think that once we realized that we just need to pick a place and not worry about it too much, then it all came together.
Ultimately we could plan every day for the next year, or just plan slowly when needed, and it would probably all work out the same.
I am sure wherever you decide will be fun, as long as you’ve got your groom and anyone else you’d like there, you’ll have a wonderful time.
Post # 3
How have you been dating 4 years and engaged for 6 years?
Have you figured out your budget yet and how many people you want to invite? I’d start there.
Post # 4
samael : yes our budget is about 8-9,000 but California weddings run around 18-23,000! If we were to get married here, it would mainly be his friends and family. I’m from the Midwest and have a HUGE family and not sure if they would all make it.
Elopement – 10 people
Actual wedding – 110
Post # 5
samael : whoops, I meant 6 months!!
Post # 6
So you want to spend 9k max, and want to go to Tulum and invite just family, then throw a bash when you return to where you live.
You need to start pricing out both things.
Look at venues in Tulum. Get quotes. You’ll need to consider travel costs, travel insurance, hotel, food, if you’d get hair and makeup done, flowers, clothing for you two. Photographer too.
Are you going to host any sort of meal on the wedding day? Get quotes.
Research all of that and see what the cost is.
If you have any left, you can start planning the reception at home. Good luck!
Post # 7
Are you actually getting married in Mexico or is this a symbolic ceremony? There are a lot of hoops to jump through to actually get married there. If budget is an issue I’m not understanding how this is making sense.
Post # 8
Have you considered just putting the wedding off for a few years so you can both save up, get a stronger financial footing, and give yourself more time to plan?
Post # 9
ladyinwhite13 : “we’re planning on having a huge reception with all of our friends and family members here in CA.” — Can you help me understand how having a destination wedding in Mexico and then later having a huge reception back home will be cheaper than just adding a quick ceremony to the reception? The reception is the expensive part of a wedding so if you’re going to have that anyway, how is it cheaper to have 2 events instead of 1?
Post # 10
ladyinwhite13 : Yeah, I’m sorry but I don’t really understand your thinking here. Are you planning on getting married in Tulum then hosting a large party to celebrate in CA way later, so that you can save up money?
My reception is very, very basic and we have 60 peope on the list and it’s close to $10K. If I were you I’d start pricing out your options so you can have a very realistic idea of what you can and can’t afford.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I looked at this for my first wedding and found that the expensive part of the wedding IS the reception, so doing a destination wedding & home reception was actaully more expensive (plus then, you spend your honeymoon with your guests & not just you and husband). If you can have an evening reception at a free venue and only serve alcohol and a late night snack, this might be a viable option for you.
I ended up doing an evening wedding. We did photos in the afternoon and had dinner catered for just our family & anyone that had to come for photos. The ceremony started at 7 with the reception immediately after. I got TONS of compliments on doing it this way, my guests loved that there wasnt the awkward break in the middle and that they still had a full day to do whatever they wanted before having to be somewhere.