(Closed) Isn't It Tacky When…

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I wouldn’t say tacky but perhaps presumptuous depending on the guest list.

I think it is always wise to provide a range of items. We had small things like chip clips, towels etc and then larger items like $600-$1,000 rugs….we got all the rugs. People have a way of surprsing you when it comes to gifts.

 

Post # 4
Member
5221 posts
Bee Keeper

I think they can register for whatever they want to register for… nothing says you HAVE to buy from it. Also— wedding and registry don’t have to be directly related, so just because the wedding is smaller scale doesn’t mean that they can only register for smaller scale things.

 

Just get them something nice that is more in your price range!

Post # 5
Member
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you should always have a variety of price points on a registry, regardless of how expensive your wedding is. 

Post # 6
Member
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve encountered a couple like that. The wedding was very very very low budget (cold cut sandwiches, no alcohol, free outdoor venue) and had about 100-150 people. She registered at four different places that were generally more on the pricier side of the mall (so NOT Target or JCP) and everything was quite expensive (like three different pricey china patterns from Macy’s – kosher kitchen). I shopped pretty early to make sure I could get one of the less expensive things but I don’t know how much of her registry was fulfilled.

I don’t think she did it intentionally or maliciously. I just think she had very expensive taste and was too oblivious and trigger-happy to notice everything was astronomical.

Post # 7
Member
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s a bit inconsiderate of the guests’ budgets, as many people feel they are required to purchase from a registry; I also think it’s a bit short-sighted as it may stir up negative feelings in guests which might in turn be reflected in how generous they end up feeling.  

Post # 9
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@future_mrs_sommer:  I agree it is silly to assume that everyone will want to spend that much money. If you aren’t comfortable with spending that much just give them a gift card for an amount you are comfortable with and they can apply that towards one of their extravangent items.

Post # 10
Member
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@future_mrs_sommer:  i agree,  it is a bit rude.

my previous wedding, i felt bad putting anything too expensive on it.  most items were around $30-$50.  i think the most expensive item was just over $100. 

Post # 11
Member
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is every single item on there really $75+? There is no stemware or something that comes in multiple quantities? For example, we have wine glasses on our registry and if you buy the full quantity, it would be over $100 but we had a couple buy us half of them as their gift.

Post # 15
Member
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that how much they spent on the wedding is irrelevant. I do think it’s annoying when people don’t have things under $50 on their registry, or when the cheapest thing is a single plate for $50. It really doesn’t have anything to do with how much their wedding costs or how frugal they are as a couple, though. 

Post # 16
Member
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

When I’m stuck going to a wedding like that and the couple is utterly unrealistic in their registry, I buy a $25 gift card to one of the places they’re registered and put it in a card.

I think the tackiest thing I’ve seen was a couple who listed like 6 places they were registered in huge print on their reception card and then had the reception info in very small writing.  Unfortunately they were a distant relation, so I had no choice but to go and felt humiliated that people in the area saw it.

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