(Closed) Isn’t this supposed to be fun? (long vent)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow, sounds like you have a lot on your plate with unruly parents who are only thinking about themselves.  My advice, either go somewhere fabulous, just the 2 of you and get married there, or just grin and bear it and don’t let them get to you. Just ignore them when they talk about it, and don’t give them any more information or input into whats going on with it. You’re paying for it, so they can deal with it. Come or don’t come, as long as you and your Fiance are there that’s all that really matters anyway (((HUGS)))

Post # 5
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh ok, yeah unfortunately you have to deal with it if she is paying.  Honestly, my whole family was great about our wedding, hubs and I payed for it so everyone went along with what we wanted and just helped where we needed. i was really really lucky.  But, if I were in your situation, I would have just gone the 2 of us and said F everyone.  Then maybe they can think about how they acted and that they missed the chance of being at your wedding.  I wanted to have a destination wedding but our families couldn’t afford to come and we wanted them there, but it sounds like your families are toxic and need to be treated as such

Post # 6
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Really honestly, elope. It sounds like your wedding is becoming more about everyone else’s drama and baggage rather than your relationship and love for each other. If Fiance is on board, I say call an all inclusive, go somewhere warm for a week and forget about the rest of them. So sorry you’re going through this hon. ((HUGS))

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree w/ Mrs S. Although mom is paying for the wedding, the stress sounds way too much & I would probably end up going somewhere w/ Fiance & eloping. If this is something you & him truly want, who cares what anyone else says (mothers included).

Post # 8
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, I’m sorry things are so rough.  Maybe you should just grab your parents and brother some weekend and go to City Hall, that way they can say they were there, but you’re not spending a lot of money (I don’t see how 25 guests at a park wedding costs a lot, but whatever) and you guys can get it over with, which should lessen the drama.  But, I don’t think you should sacrifice your dream wedding for your family.  You’re (hopefully) only getting married once, you don’t want to regret any bit of it.  Your families sound like they’re being selfish and taking away what should be a happy time for you and your fiance.  I hope things work out for you, good luck!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh love. I say run away, the pair of ye! You’re gonna be a nervous wreck for the next six months with that lot! There are too many people in your life who can or will ruin stuff on you. Go. Cancel stuff. Book a nice hol with a wedding in it. Be happy on your wedding day!

Post # 11
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Show them the national average of $26k or something ridiculous these days and tell them to shut up.  🙂

Post # 13
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m so sorry that you have to deal with all this! *hugs*

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