(Closed) Issue at work- advice?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
3611 posts
Sugar bee

If your boss’s boss told you to lead communication with this client on whatever project you’re working on with them, I don’t see why you have to run it past your direct supervisor every time you send the client an email. In your case, I would just do your job on your own as the CEO directed, and if there are any issues, let her know that you’re happy to talk it through in a meeting with you, her and the CEO just so everyone is clear on what their responsibilities are. I would think she’d drop the subject at that point and wouldn’t take you up on it, because she’d look like an idiot in front of him.

Post # 3
1450 posts
Bumble bee

Document document document.  This situation could turn really ugly given how she is responding and I wouldn’t be surprised if she tried to sabotage your efforts and blame you for stuff that’s not your fault in the future.  With coworkers/managers etc who react this way (when they feel “threatened” b/c you show competence they will try to keep you back) you need to document EVERYTHING.  You need to keep a record of all the good faith efforts you made with her and how she stonewalled you at every turn.  Try to keep ALL of your communication via email or text rather than verbal convos because then you have a track record of who said what and the things she promised to do but did not do.  Because if this gets bad, it will be her word against yours.

The exact same thing happened to me where the VP saw I did good work and started giving me more lead responsibilities.  And the woman who worked right above me (I did a lot of her work too) acted like she was a team player and all about helping me in front of the VP and CEO, but behind their backs she did everything she could to sabotage my work and would constantly tell them that I was lazy/unreliable (complete lies) behind my back when the reality was, she was the one who acted this way (always claiming she’s too busy w/ her work and never responds to my emails etc and never gets her part of the project done but then citing it was my fault she wasn’t able to).  When things came to a head, thank god I kept a record of ALL of my work and all the correspondence b/n me and her, so when HR and our other supervisors got involved when she started making blatant accusations, my documentation totally saved my ass.  Anyone with half a brain could see the lies and manipulation she tried to pull if you read our emails/texts, so I was able to protect myself.  But let me tell you, if I didn’t do any of that and just hoped everything would work out on its own, I would have definitely lost that job (she was a very convincing liar and she had her buddies at work backing her up) and most likely gotten a horrible reference.  

Either ways girl, protect yourself.  There is nothing you can do if your coworker refuses to work with you but you can definitely gather all the evidence that shows your hard work and that the problem lies with her, not you.

Post # 5
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I agree with PP who said document when you can. I’ve been in similar situations and it comes down to your direct being insecure – she’s probably paranoid that you’ll do a better job than her. People will do shady things to keep their positions, so like I said, document when possible! 

Post # 8
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I agree wholeheartedly with documenting every move. I’ve been in this spot before as well, and started to pull the “no problem, would you mind shooting me a quick email so I don’t forget” line a few times. The more you have on paper, the better off you will be. Save everything and make note on the email threads that she doesn’t reply to- I was able to prove that I was reaching out to my co-worker consistantly and that she was blatently not replying. My case eventually went to the point where lawyers got involved and all of my documents saved me.

It’s so irritating to deal with this, and I’m sorry it’s something you’re going through. You are clearly doing something right though, so keep up the awesome work!

Post # 10
9222 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

sparklesalways :  Ugh, so sorry, bee. That’s annoying.

Definitely agree with PPs about a papertrail. The easiest way to do this is “confirm” things in emails (“As we discussed…” or “Based on our convo yesterday…” or “As you requested…” type shiz).

My other advice is just to stay mentally strong and hang in there. People who try to tear you down and make you look bad just make fools of themselves when you keep pushing forward, performing, and doing straight-up great work. Treat her with respect, of course, but put a bullseye on the things you have to go and get ‘er done. GL 😉

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