(Closed) Issues with dad and wedding.

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should I do?
    Have both parents walk me : (13 votes)
    54 %
    Have only mom walk me : (11 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 16
    7903 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Are there other instances of him neglecting you? How was he before the divorce? Not everyone is super close with their dads, but they still respect their dads. If he’s been a good dad to you otherwise, I’d have him walk you down the aisle. If this instance is part of a long history of bad experiences, I would be more inclined to not have him take that role.

    Post # 17
    1633 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    OP, here’s how I know this issue IS about the money for you: If it weren’t, you would have left this absurd garbage about the money out of your post, and simply asked, “I’m not close to my father and haven’t ever felt like a priority to him so I don’t want him to walk me, but I’m afraid his family will be mad. What should I do?”

    Also I might note, putting aside the fact that it is nobody else’s responsibility to pay for your wedding even if you are close to them, that you have some balls emphasizing how you’re not at all close with your dad but going to him with your hands out anyway.

    Post # 18
    2507 posts
    Sugar bee

    anon4605:  could he have handled the situation better and not said he’d give you money and then fail to do so? Sure. But you shouldn’t have asked to begin with. It’s one thing if someone offers – it’s quite another thing for you to request money, and hen get upset when it doesn’t materialize (regardless of what he said). And now to punish him as a result? You sound rather entitled. 

    Post # 20
    2098 posts
    Buzzing bee

    anon4605:  What do you want re:aisle ignoring all the money stuff that has happened. Pretend your wedding was paid for by a sweestakes– would you have him walk you down the aisle? What feels right to you consiering your relationship with him, your relationship to traditions, and your vision of your day? Figure that out and go with that. 

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