Post # 1
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Helper bee
Hello bees!
My boyfriend and I are ring shopping and I like solitaires with side accents. I like the pave setting but I read that you aren’t supposed to wear a pave e-ring with a pave wedding band because they rub together and the prongs can get damaged and worn and the diamonds can fall out. Is this true? If you have a pave setting have you had issues with this? Would you recommend the setting?
Here are examples of styles I like http://www.bluenile.com/build-your-own-ring/petite-diamond-engagement-ring-14k-white-gold_42026 and http://www.bluenile.com/build-your-own-ring/french-pave-diamond-ring-white-gold_44725.
I read that you can solder the rings together to prevent this but I’d rather not do this as I imagine I’ll want to sometimes wear the band without the e-ring. I know I can get a plain band solitaire and then a pave wedding band but I guess I’m just OCD because I want the two bands to match and look good together. Any words of wisdom and/or photos from you lovely ladies is much appreciated!!!
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
mrsfox : I have pave diamond on my engagement ring and a full eternity wedding band and haven’t seen any prong issues with my set. I would make sure that both are the same metal. For instance I have a platinum engagement ring and platinum wedding band. But don’t do 14K gold with one and 18K with the other because you’re more likely to have these issues in the future.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
prinzesschen : Thanks! I plan on doing 14k gold for both.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
I think it maybe depends on the size of the diamonds in the pave band and how they’re placed in. Mine isn’t soldered together so there is a SMALL gap but I think that’s to my advantage. Also, with the mico pave I think the stones are placed in the band versus bigger stones that need a bigger prong outside (ie like the stones on the side of your 1st example)….so a wedding band with larger stones could be a problem.
It’s also when/how you wear and take care of your ring- they people who complain never tell you how they wear theres – to the gym, cleaning the house, working at a salon, whatever.
I try to be delicate with my set when possible- I have a rubber ring for the gym with I lift, I don’t wear this to the beach generally (plus my fingers swell in the heat), I take it off when I get home and don’t clean/shower in it. So there’s not a lot of rubbing and scratching going on.
Or get the ring you really love and just set appointments to get it regularly checked at a jewelers.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
tallahasseelassie : Thanks so much! That gives me food for thought and makes a lot of sense! Your ring is beautful by the way. I can see how the gap would stop them from rubbing together.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I did have that problem because they were off 1/2 size from each other. Since I had then soldered together they don’t rub so they won’t move. 
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Two of my sisters have rings with a lot of pave, both have had issues with stones falling out.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I think a lot of the issues with stones falling out comes from having the ring re-sized as it changes the shape of the ring and also how the diamonds are held (even if only slightly). I’ve had my rings, worn them basically everywhere doing everything (I do take them off, but mostly if I’m doing something dirty and don’t want them getting gross). Mine even came from a mall store (gasp). I’ve been wearing the engagement ring 2 years and the wedding band for about a year and have never had a stone fall out. I don’t have them soldered either. I do get them checked every 6 months though, and if a stone were to fall out the store would cover it’s replacement. I think there are a lot of factors that affect if stones fall out or not.
(My rings on top, husband’s is on the bottom. Photo courtesy of Asher Marie Photography)
Post # 9
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Helper bee
sscott06 : Good to know. Is the band bigger or smaller than the e-ring? Beautiful rings!
Post # 10
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Helper bee
MrsSeptemberPenguin : I think you’re right. We were at Jared on Saturday and the salesperson said if I needed to get it resized they’d give me a new ring because when you resize a ring with side stones or pave diamonds then it can cause problems with the diamonds falling out. This worries me a bit because I’m leaning towards blue nile. I ordered their free ring sizer but with it being online it’s more likely he’d order the wrong size and we’d have to get it resized.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
MrsSeptemberPenguin : Super helpful information! I haven’t had either of my rings resized. This is part of the information that more people need to share cause it def comes into play!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Both of my rings have pave and I haven’t had any problems with any stones coming out or even being loose. My rings are not designed to be a set either. I don’t want to get them soldered because I wear my band alone sometimes. I have a tiny spacer band that I sometimes wear in between my rings in the winter or if my hands will be wet etc. When I go to the pool or whatever though, I move the spacer to the outside as it is a tiny bit smaller.
There are particular jewelers that seem to have more problems with this than others- Jared, Kay and Zales have been in the media and all over the boards for this problem. If you get your rings elsewhere and have a good local jeweler to check them periodically, there shouldn’t be any problems.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
FutureMrsPlasters : Thanks! Were your rings re-sized? Beautful, unique rings by the way. I like the spacer idea, I’m looking into that. I’m leaning towards a setting on Blue Nile with 3 side stones on each side. I figure with fewer diamonds maybe I won’t have so many to worry about. If I do have issues I’ll just deal with it as it comes.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
mrsfox : Yes, We ordered my rings the correct size but a few months ago they were just a little too big and we had them sized down. I waited until summer to re-size because I wanted to make sure they fit in the heat. I haven’t had any issues with loose stones or anything at all.
Post # 15
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Newbee
- Wedding: June 2018 - Grand Palladium Lady Hamilton Resort & Spa
mrsfox : YUP! Literally lost a diamond a week after we got engaged. Thankfully, it wasn’t noticeable (as it was on the bottom) and our jeweler took it right back in and fixed it within a couple of hours. 
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