Post # 1
Hi Bee’s –
So My Future Mother-In-Law decieded to “surprise” me last minute a day before our engagement party to make magnet save the dates to give out at the party. She used an old picture of us (honestly it was a nice picture of fiance and an okay picture of me)…I was so busy with work and the party that when she called me literally the day before at the printer about to swipe her card I just said okay. I then cried about it later because it isn’t what I wanted at all. Now I don’t even see the point of taking engagement pictures, I have no way of knowing who took the magnets at the party and who didn’t.
My question is, would it be a waste to mail out save the dates anyways? I have no idea who got the magnets, so I think it would be rude to NOT send them to everyone. I have been thinking about a e-save the dates, but I know that my parent’s friends don’t all use email.
Would it be a waste of money if we did another save the date? ughh I am so frustrated.
Post # 3
You don’t need to send save the dates. You can put engagement pictures in the invitation somehow if you need a purpose for them. It is not rude to not send save the dates out because they are non-essential, especially if there aren’t many out of town guests. I won’t worry too much.
Post # 4
@BrookeBQ: Point taken. However, no one really needs half of the things that have to do with weddings. I don’t want to regret not doing anything at my wedding, just as I don’t want to regret not doing anything in life. Sure it’s just save the dates, but for me it’s one of those things that i’ve wanted to do forever. I hope I don’t sound overdramtic. 🙂
Post # 5
@Meant2Bee: I don’t think there’s any reason why you couldn’t send out Save-The-Date Cards at this point, but I also wanted to point out that in 10 years you won’t care about missing out on a detail this small. I promise.
Post # 6
Don’t sent more save-the-dates, but absolutely take engagement pictures!!! We did engagement pictures with our photographer too late to send out save-the-dates, so we used a different (still profesional) picture for that. I will use the engagement pictures for a guest book, an easel picture, and to frame in our house. I know it seems like a big deal now, but it’s really not!
Post # 7
I would send them out. It’s a big deal to you and thats what matters. Plus how else are you going to make sure everyone knows they are invited. What if they didn’t come to the party or receive a magnet? I also noted on my envelopes for the STD’s who was invited to bring a guest, etc. so that it is clear who is inivited. I don’t think your Future Mother-In-Law should care if you explain wanting everyone to know for certain they are invited. Also get engagement pics done! These are something you will have forever and being engaged is such a special time. It is nice to remember it with some beautiful photos. Do the save the dates! No one will think twice that they already receieved a magnet.
Post # 8
Save-The-Dates are generally for your out of town guests who have to make travel arrangements. I doubt those people would have been at your party, so I think it’d be ok to send them.
Maybe just don’t send them with different magnets so the same people get two different magnets. 🙂
I only did STD’s because we married on a holiday weekend and most of our guests had to travel, but if you want to send them – send them.
Post # 9
@likewoah: A part of me thinks when I have a daughter or daughter in law I am going to be trying SO hard to not be like my Future Mother-In-Law, which is awful to say but very true. That’s why I just want to do them anyways.
@almostmrsj: Our wedding is on a holiday weekend (memorial day) and though the majority of our guests our local I want them to all know the date so they plan to stay in town. And yes, our very out of town guest were not at the party.
Post # 10
@Meant2Bee: Send them if you want to. Your FMILs magnets were basically party favors that had your wedding date on them. You can still send out traditional Save-The-Date Cards if that’s what you want. It’s not imposing on anybody but you.