(Closed) Issues with single friends?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Could your husband meet you at the party?  I wouldn’t see the big deal if they’re going to a party to hang out with guys as well.

ETA: I think it’s great to have girls night – don’t get me wrong.  It was a suggestion because it seems like there may be a possibility these girls will be mingling with guys most of the night.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We have that too. What we do is try to keep the girls night/boys night to happy hour and  then evening activities to be coed. In your shoes, I’d meet everyone at the party. My time with my Fiance is limited and I limit my girl time to be a few weeknights a month.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would personally do the whole thing with just my girlfriends because I enjoy my girl time, and I wouldn’t want it to seem like I need to bring my husband with me everywhere.  Neither he nor I would care that it’s a mixed-gender party…we attend various parties without each other.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t go to something like that.  I would feel that I am excluding FH since it really isn’t a “girls weekend.”  Plus I am not the party type.  We are also one of those odd couples that do everything together.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@hotchildinthecity Probably This….

Especially since everyone knows you’re married and the intent of the event isnt for YOU to be mingling it up with guys, its just for you to have fun with your single gals.

I do think its good that you question this tho in regard to wanting to do the “right” thing, your committment to your DH/marriage is commendable. Good for you! 

You probably could ask him what he thinks about all this…

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@SarahSmilesDec28:  Playing devil’s advocate, I imagine he wasn’t expressly invited because the girls don’t want to sleep over with a bunch of girls and one guy.  If my girlfriends invited me to any sort of sleepover/spend the night type situation, I would never expect that my husband would be invited.  Because that just creates a bit of an awkward situation for the other girls.

Just as some background, my friends are very close to my husband, and several have known him as long as I have.  We do lots of things together as a group, with other couples sometimes in the mix. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t really see the problem, it isn’t as if other peoples’ significant others were invited and he wasn’t.  It’s a girls thing, and only girls are going and sleeping over.  The party is really the same thing as going out to a bar, where guys would be.

But I will say I have never been in your position — being the only married one — so I guess I don’t understand exactly how you feel.  If it bothers you, and weekends are special with your husband, then I think it’s totally fine to just decline.    

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have this. One of my best friends is the only girl not with an SO in her complete friends circle and ntm a (needs to get over) breakup. I’m the only girl who will leave SO at home and go hang out with her. Its tough becuase she’s so sour and does not understand that SOs come first compared to other relationships.

For your situation, I would not go to the party and if they asked why be straight up honest.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you’re being weird about it. That’s like saying for it to be girls night there can be no boys at any event.

I go to “girls night” and we end up clubbing… guess who else goes clubbing? Boys. Same for the boys… they go to bars/ pool guess who else does there? Girls.

 

 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@SarahSmilesDec28:  Yeah, I think you just may be on a different page then some other Bees.  I live with my husband and we’re together all the time, so when I get a “GIRLS NIGHT” email, I’m all SQUEEEEE!!!  Because I really look forward to that time.  So maybe your friends send it in that fashion, expecting an excited reaction. 

And sometimes, honestly you do have to specify.  A few months ago, I planned a girls’ night out, where I thought it was assumed that it was girls only.  I made reservations and everything for just the girls.  At the last minute, one of my friends called and said that her husband was feeling left out and could he join in.  It created SUCH an awkward situation for me and the other ladies!!

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