(Closed) Issues with venues and pricing!!!

posted 9 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t have one and I don’t have pictures right now (I’ll try to find some) .. but a friend of mine had a wedding in her backyard.  I loved it.  She had approximately 60 guests.  It made the wedding more intimate and I had as much fun at that wedding as I do any other wedding.  It was beautiful and it was so personal.  They got married in the backyard of their new house.  It was so nice!

Post # 4
482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am not having a backyard wedding (waaay too many guests haha) but my sister did and I helped her plan. 

She had about 120 guests; the ceremony was on the lawn and the reception was partly in the yard/partly in the garage (they have a huge garage because they live in the country). Overall, it was pretty relaxed and DIY so keep that in mind

Ceremony decorations and set up:

  • My uncle built a trellis/arch for them that they got married under
  • Rented chairs for the ceremony that were also used for the reception (my brothers and uncles carried them to the reception area after the ceremony–it took about 5 minutes)
  • Planted flowers in pots that were used for the ceremony decorations. (Big advantage of being in nature means you don’t have to do much decorating lol)

Reception decorations and set up:

  • Borrowed a couple of small white tents (canopies?) from friends and family to go over the tables so nothing dropped from the trees into the food
  • Made bunting out of paper and hung it from the trees and strung tulle and lights along the ceiling of the garage
  • Made a ton of those HUGE tissue pomanders and hung them from the ceiling
  • Set up picture boards along the walls of the garage to help cover up the boring drywall
  • Borrowed tables from friends and family
  • Tablecloths were just basic white fabric that my mom hemmed (you could also rent or buy these)
  • Used lots of wildflowers in mason jars on the tables


  • Think about things like bathrooms. They had three, so they were ok, but depending on the number of guests and size of your house, you may need to rent.
  • If you’re using a caterer–do they need access to your kitchen at all?
  • Take advantage of the fact that you are at home for your photos. Are there certain things you love about your house/yard that you want to make sure are captured on film? At the same time, don’t be afraid to go elsewhere (a park, a city center) to get other pictures as well.
  • Look around to see what you already have that can be used and/or borrowed from family and friends. The great thing is that you can set up in advance, which really helps things be more relaxed on the day of.

I have a ton of pictures but since they are not of my wedding, I will check with her and make sure she’s ok with it.

ETA–that was a super long post! lol sorry about that but hopefully it helps?

Post # 6
5092 posts
Bee Keeper

@MissHornet:  I think it would be so nice and personalized.  Just think of the memories.  I wish I got married in my parents yard-but I got married in New England in November.  Can you post a photo of your backyard?

Post # 7
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our friends had a back yard wedding; they have a “medium” back yard (meaning that to a city dweller like myself, it feels pretty big, but it’s not even a half acre so it’s really not that big) that ends in a privacy fence to the next neighbor’s yard.  So the view back there was nothing to write home about, although their yard was (and always has been) gorgeous. They spend a lot of time in their flower garden, have a koi pond, etc. So it was a nice space.  They brought in a tent and I’d guess it was about 60 people.

Everyone enjoyed the day, and thought it was a lovely ceremony and reception; I don’t think anyone felt “put off” that it was so casual.

The things the couple complained about though:

-Apparently dealing with the port-o-potties was a nightmare, even if they went for the more expensive “mobile bathroom” model. They had to get a permit from the city to park it in their driveway and had a lot of logistical issues with the delivery company. There were also some challenges with the stairs for their older guests

-Their lawn was shredded by ladies in high heels and it took pretty much the rest of the summer for them to get it back in order. This may or may not be a big deal to you (or the lawn-owner) depending on how emotionally attached you are to the lawn

-Trash and recycling disposal was a huge issue, as they simply did not have enough trashcans for all the trash, even after borrowing from half their neighbors, and in the city where they live, you can get a fine for putting trash out at the curb in just a trashbag and no trashcan (it attracts critters)

-They had no proper Plan B in the event of rain, and while they did have a tent, it wouldn’t have stood up to even a halfway strong rain shower. They did end up with a gorgeous, non-rainy day, but they both stressed endlessly over that

Also, parking was a big issue for them. They had talked with all their neighbors in advance so as to not cause any neighbor drama, but still their street wasn’t big enough to fit all those cars (this is your generic suburban neighborhood) especially with the port-o-potty truck, caterer van and etc.  They also had a very hard time relaxing because they (actually most of the adults) were constantly on the lookout for little kids who escaped the back yard as we had a couple of the kids run into the street– no one got hurt, and there weren’t even any close calls, but any adult who sees a kid dart out into the street gets really worried, and that was a big issue all day long.

Post # 8
174 posts
Blushing bee

i think you are very very lucky to even have the option and it could be wonderful with the right planning and theme. it will probably take ALOT of work and alot of DIY but would be awesome!

Post # 10
3954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Before you commit, look into pricing! I was thinking about having mine in my parent’s back yard, but after factoring in all the rental fees (for the same quality of food, drinks, and equipment as a nice hotel), it wouldn’t save us a penny and potentially could cost more. However, if you’re willing to do more DIY stuff, it probably could be much cheaper. Most hotels make you use their food and drinks, which is where the bulk of the cost is. If you have a fairly cheap restaurant do catering (ie Italian, Mexican, BBQ), use an iPod instead of DJ, use twinkly lights instead of a tent, get alcohol at Costco, etc. you could definitely make it low-budget. I would talk to a wedding coordinator or at least a party rental company to get a good idea of how much everything will cost to rent and set up. Good luck!

Post # 11
1617 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Check out the blog younhouselove…just google backyard weddings as well to come up with ideas.

I was going to have a backyard wedding and still might… and I was thinking of X-mas lights and paper lanterns as decor.  As well as renting chairs of course (was only planning on having the ceremony and cocktail hour in the yard.)  My other option (and leanign more towards it) is a church.  We’ll see.

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