(Closed) Is/Was getting engaged a huge step for you (encores)?

posted 10 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I think so, because I wanted him to know that I am 100% totally committed to making this work, forever. I felt like I wanted to say "and this time, I MEAN IT". He knows I do, I just, for me, wanted to make sure that he knows.

I want to be married – I want to have him as my partner for life. So I’m really really excited to be embarking on this journey.

Post # 5
365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Yeah, it was a big step for me. I always said I didn’t want to get married again.  My first marriage did not end nicely, and I was happily co-habitating with my sweetie.  Honestly, it wasn’t until he asked me to marry him that I realized how much I wanted to be his wife.  I realize that sounds a little crazy (I didn’t know I wanted steak til he told me I wanted steak) but it wasn’t like that.  I just assumed he didn’t want to take things to the next level (and was really okay with that).  

Post # 7
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I was in that frame of mind where I had done it once and it didn’t work, so why bother to try again.  I dated and had long term relationships and in the back of my mind I knew they weren’t forever, so it was very breezy and laid back.

Then I met "him".  It was that flash of "oh my goodness, I’m going to marry this man!" Part of me kept saying that I would just live with him because I didn’t want to fail again.

He put a bump in my road when he said he wouldn’t live with me unless we were married. So that made that plan not an option.

And so here we are.  We keep moving back the date due to work, life and money but soon I will be walking down the isle and I will become his wife and there isnt’ anything that could make me happier!

Post # 9
9 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know this is an old post- but just had to BUMP it because it totally explains how I am feeling right now…

I think our engagement is so meaningful to both my fiance and I because we never thought we would be ready to try again, to trust in love and each other again, to be willing to communicate and compromise and work within a new marriage together- just writing about it makes me smile and cry…

Our engagement is a HUGE step- not because I am nervous- but because it symbolizes a new direction in our lives- one that we are taking together…  and I am so happy to be moving forward with him…

Keisha 🙂



Post # 10
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It was for me, I had been divorced for almost 9 yrs at that point (last year). It really was a big deal and it is a big adjustment for me.

Post # 11
3 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had dated other men in between the ex and my future husband and with them there was NEVER an idea that I would ever remarry and I would tell them so.  When I started dating FH, it was diffrent, like a calm at sea… After 6 months, I started to think I could do this again with this man (if he ever were to ask) then not quite 6 months later (a week ago) He asked and I had no problem saying “Yes”

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