Post # 1
Just wondering. I always thought I’d just not ever remarry. I was so happy as I was, but all that changed when I met T. He’s the most loving, supportive (did I mention adorable?) guy in the world and the way he adores and treats my son as his own just melted away over time any hesitation I could ever have.
In the past I used to cry at the scene in Sweet Home Alabama where Reece walked down the aisle getting remarried but she was thinking of her x and then the lightening bolt hits… I just used to cry (this was right after I was divorced) and thought I’d just never love again or be able to trust…but it’s deeper, more meaningful now, and a gazillion times better!
Apples to oranges. Really two different situations.
But the decision to remarry was huge for me. I had to TRUST.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I think so, because I wanted him to know that I am 100% totally committed to making this work, forever. I felt like I wanted to say "and this time, I MEAN IT". He knows I do, I just, for me, wanted to make sure that he knows.
I want to be married – I want to have him as my partner for life. So I’m really really excited to be embarking on this journey.
Post # 4
It truly is a lightbulb moment. I had it. Clear as a bell when I just KNEW he was the one and that this was (kinda sappy) destiny for us.
After so much heartbreak I endured, I truly never again thought I’d feel this way..but I do..and it’s amazing.
Post # 5
Yeah, it was a big step for me. I always said I didn’t want to get married again. My first marriage did not end nicely, and I was happily co-habitating with my sweetie. Honestly, it wasn’t until he asked me to marry him that I realized how much I wanted to be his wife. I realize that sounds a little crazy (I didn’t know I wanted steak til he told me I wanted steak) but it wasn’t like that. I just assumed he didn’t want to take things to the next level (and was really okay with that).
Post # 6
I can totally understand how you feel. I was completely contented with who I was, the life I’d created for my son and I, happy and blessed to be his mom, and have great family, friends and even pets. I felt fulfilled BEFORE I met T.
T is just like the icing on the cake..sorry for the wedding analogy, can’t help it!
Post # 7
I was in that frame of mind where I had done it once and it didn’t work, so why bother to try again. I dated and had long term relationships and in the back of my mind I knew they weren’t forever, so it was very breezy and laid back.
Then I met "him". It was that flash of "oh my goodness, I’m going to marry this man!" Part of me kept saying that I would just live with him because I didn’t want to fail again.
He put a bump in my road when he said he wouldn’t live with me unless we were married. So that made that plan not an option.
And so here we are. We keep moving back the date due to work, life and money but soon I will be walking down the isle and I will become his wife and there isnt’ anything that could make me happier!
Post # 8
It is amazing isn’t it when you meet the One and suddenly things are just different..can’t explain it, it just IS different
Post # 9
I know this is an old post- but just had to BUMP it because it totally explains how I am feeling right now…
I think our engagement is so meaningful to both my fiance and I because we never thought we would be ready to try again, to trust in love and each other again, to be willing to communicate and compromise and work within a new marriage together- just writing about it makes me smile and cry…
Our engagement is a HUGE step- not because I am nervous- but because it symbolizes a new direction in our lives- one that we are taking together… and I am so happy to be moving forward with him…
Post # 10
It was for me, I had been divorced for almost 9 yrs at that point (last year). It really was a big deal and it is a big adjustment for me.
Post # 11
I had dated other men in between the ex and my future husband and with them there was NEVER an idea that I would ever remarry and I would tell them so. When I started dating FH, it was diffrent, like a calm at sea… After 6 months, I started to think I could do this again with this man (if he ever were to ask) then not quite 6 months later (a week ago) He asked and I had no problem saying “Yes”