(Closed) It’s officially happened… the can I bring my babies question!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would stick to my guns. If anyone asks us if they can bring their kids it’s going to be a firm no. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@KDOS:  based on your update this is how I would approcah your friend…

“FI and I discussed hiring a sitter for guests with little ones, but after talking with a few moms like yourself they all expressed they would rather bring their own sitter they knew. Most guests are staying at the hotel where our weddinv is taking place so the babies and little ones will be close by. We will not be able to accomodate your little ones at the event. I hope you are still able.to attend the wedding, but no hard feelings if you are unable to.”

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@CurlyCue:  +1 to that. 

Also, perhaps they can share a sitter with someone else?  If they already know one of the parents, or if not you could put her in touch with one of them (you woudl need to ask them if it’s okay first of course).  If one of the other parents is open to it you could throw that option out to her.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@beachbride1216:  +1000!  The things that people expect the bride and groom to pay for nowadays just keeps growing. I can find a sitter or not go.  It’s very simple. 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

@KDOS:  I wouldn’t bend the rule on this. She’ll probably not be able to attend, but it’s not fair to your other guests, and it puts you in a delicate situation if you ever make an exception for her. And if you don’t want 15 babies/kids at your wedding, you better not start making an exception for 2.

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@beachbride1216:  +1.

 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@KDOS:  if you feel awkward just coming out and saying, no, sorry -!then justbteplynyhatbyour other guests atre getting sitters and maybe suggest she could share with one Of them? 

If inwere you, I wouldn’t make an exception (especially for twins – yeesh!) otherwise your kid free wedding is going to end up like Romper Room.

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@beachbride1216:  Agree, agree, AGREE! We are having our wedding be 13+ and older. Simply because there are children on both sides of the family that are just complete brats and would be a huge distraction during the ceremony and reception. We just sent our save the dates and included our website link. Our website states no children under 13, and I’m anticipating the backlash of parents who can’t grasp why we don’t want their precious angels in attendance. The thought of a sitter to them is appalling. Eye roll. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

@KDOS:  The breastfeeding baby thing is where we made exceptions. However, none of my friends WANTED to bring their babies, haha. I didn’t care at all for the reception, but if my friends had RSVP’d to bring their infants, I had planned to provide them information about where to take their babies if the child cried during the Mass. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee

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@lolot:  Agreed, completely. Almost all of my friends have young kids, so the thought of excluding children was never an option. I’d rather celebrate with people I love, including their children.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i was fortunate that there were not any new borns while we were planning our wedding but I didn’t want a bunch of kids at my wedding. It’s a personal choice there’s no right or wrong answer.

i’d be careful about making exceptions because other people might get hacked off if they see that

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