- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So I have a BFF from highschool. I was always there for her… through her dramas, through her breakups, through her relationship that turned into an engagement, then marriage, and 1st baby. She asked me to be her bridesmaid and I said yes. I helped her with her bridal showers, bachelorette party, etc and don’t even want to say how much $$$ I poured to get her the best of everything. So fast forward to planning her baby shower for baby #1, which I put together with a few of our other gfs. DURING THAT ENTIRE TIME I was SINGLE. Single as can be. I was content with being her friend and listening to her whole life come together. I never critisized her decisions-NOTHING.
I move away and she becomes distant. I called her a million times. Left voicemails. No response NOTHING. I even went to visit some of my friends in the city she lives in… she made some dumb *** excuse like I have to go to bed early. A few months pass and I get the point.. we have grown apart and I’m tired of getting her voicemail.
So she posts on her fb, that shes lost a friend of 8 years and ppl r dropping like flies. I didn’t even write on it. Then our mutual friends say she’s talking about me. I’m a very passive person and just Ignore her ridic rantings on fb. She’s a drama queen, trust me i know I’ve been her friend for yrs and loves the attention.
Then I begin dating one of my best guy friends, fall in love, go back to school :] and get my life back on track.
I text her on bdays, anniversary an am always curtious even tho half the time she ignores me. So she posts that she’s having a 2nd baby… starts reaching out to me… im so happy for her and one day she posts “the few bffs that have stayed with me through everything” at her FRIGGEN baby shower that she didn’t invite me to. I was so hurt that she didn’t send me a stupid invite. SO HURT. I just gave up on it all…trying to be her fiend.
So then a few months pass and I get engaged and its on fb she texts me Im so happy. I better get invited.
So im happy and forget all the reasons IM angry and im like yes of course! finally its my turn (ive been in 6 weddings at this point).
A few months pass and Im back in her city and call her … no response…then I get a text… kids are napping Ill text u when u can come over. She texts me at 8pm. Sry but im not stupid.. kids dont sleep straight from 1-8.
Since we are getting married 11 months from now.. we’ve had our guest list made.. I didn’t even include her in it because I feel like she’s not even a friend to me anymore… I feel very “IF”-y about our friendship.
I’m tired of being so nice and feeling like she doesnt care.
Anybody feeling weird about if-y friendsihps?
What should I do?