(Closed) It can’t be right

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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120 posts
Blushing bee

@smiley3 – It’s so funny because Mr. C has told me he plans to propose within the next year and I still don’t believe it even though he talks about engagement all the time and we’ve been together to look at rings….lol…I don’t know – maybe it’s a subconscious defense mechanism? Hope you’re right about your hunch though. Smile

Post # 4
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Helper bee

yeah… Can’t help you. This is me: vacation? Oh boy, he’s going to propose! Walk the dog? Oh boy! He’s going to propose! Dinner and a movie? Oh noes! He’s gonna propose! Working late? Uhhhh, code for “ring shopping”….. Yeah I get my hopes up every day!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@OmigoshesGrrrl: ahaha I agree with the “Working late? Uhhhh, code for “ring shopping”” I’m aaaallllways wondering if he’s ring shopping when he’s actually working out or watching a movie or whatever.

I’ve gotten past most of it by trying to enjoy the moment I’m in.  A couple weeks ago we went hiking and I thought he might propose then (he was fishing in his pocket and everything!!).  I kept telling myself “look, it’s such a beautiful day, I love this hike with him, listen to the birds chirping, smell the fresh air, look at the pretty flowers….” anything to distract myself from proposal thoughts!  If I tried to finish the sentence with “….wouldn’t it be nice if he pulled out a ring?” I would immediately focus on one of my 5 senses before I could finish the sentence and try and make a new sentence about one of my senses.  It worked pretty well!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@LaurenK0105:

I’ve set myself a long distance date by which time he has to do it, and I try to tell myself not to get annoyed if it doesn’t happen on one of the many occasions that it could, because i’ve not yet reached that date. Hope that makes sense!

 

(I still think there’s an occasion every day that it ‘could’ happen!)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  It is hard!! I tortured myself many, many times before my now Fiance proposed. It’s hard, every event that seems a little extra special could be THE ONE. Whenever I would start to feel that “is he going to propose?” thought creep into my head, I would immediately tell myself that I need to relax and focus on something else about the date (getting a favorite food at dinner, enjoying the play we were going to see, etc.). I was one who thought that he would NEVER surprise  me. We had set a timeline, and even though we were about a month away, I was still shocked.

  The self-talking tips seemed to work the best for me. And, if there were times it didn’t happen, I would tell myself that I am really lucky, because I can still look forward to the proposal! I would spin everything into a positive.

  That being said, I hope that you don’t have to use this advice for too much longer! 🙂

Post # 11
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Worker bee

My sort of take on it is – it’s a win-win situation.  If he DOES, then that’s great!  if he doesn’t, then I get to enjoy the waiting for a little longer, and honestly, I think I’ll miss the little flutters of excitement and expectation after he actually DOES pop the question!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ohhh be excited. You cant help it lol I couldnt lol

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