- 5 months ago
i had an ‘uh huh’ moment last night, and am just wanting to know your thoughts/suggestions – please put yourself in my shoes.
i am in what I thought was a normal relationship. We fight sometimes, love, help eachother out etc. but after an incident last night I wondered if I was in an abusive relationship (never ever physically). This had only clicked the last few weeks as there seems to be want for me not to see my friends- now that I look back it has been there since the start. I’ll provide some examples below and tell me your thoughts:
him: I won’t be home until 12 tomorrow night
me: alright well I might go out and have drinks with my friends
him: actually no I’ll be home at 9pm so make sure you’re on the couch ready to hang out
me: do you have any plans for the rest of the night?
him: no I’m almost ready for bed
me: I’m not tired I might go and see x
him: all I have wanted all day is to hang out with you and now we finally have time to hang out you’re leaving me here
me: hey I’m going to go and stay at x house tonight I will see you in morning
him: I’m having severe anxiety attacks and need you to come home or else I’m going to have to take myself to hospital l
my friend 2 years ago had an affair. I DO NOT encourage this behaviour but did not know her at the time. Boyf arrived home to me not home and messaged. I said ‘I’m at x house’ to which his response… knowing full well I was sitting with her was ‘it’s a Friday night isn’t (the man she had an affair with) there’ ‘are you all hanging out together’ ‘is she teaching you to become a homewrecker’
Then there are little things like:
-Why did you shave, who are you actually going to see you don’t ever do that
-Why are you wearing that perfume? Who are you going to see where are you going?
– ‘Why did you scrub yourself in disinfectant I can smell it’ ‘I didn’t’ ‘well you did because I can smell it in the bathroom, what are you trying to scrub off your skin’
Am I over reacting? Please share thoughts
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