Post # 1
i was really hoping my SO would propose on our weekend trip into the mountains. He had been dropping hints all week how he was going to be the best weekever trip ever. I woke up feeling optimistic but I had a bad feeling when he wouldn’t get right out of bed. We left about an hour behind what was planned. Because of this we didn’t get to ride horses like I had been wanting to do for months. We did a two hour hike up a mountain and the view was breath taking, I figured if he going to do it now is the time. When I realized it wasn’t going to happen this weekend I tried for a while to keep it together. Then I broke down. I CRIED like a 5 year old child. I had no control over my emotions, and then my SO got mad. He told me the ring had not come in yet and he was planning something special to propose. I couldn’t get myself together so I suggest we go back home. I spent the rest if the night crying until I fell asleep. I realized that I was angry because i we’ve been together 7 years and I was beginning to resent him for making me wait so long. We had a long talk today and he apologized for making me wait this long and said as soon as he has the ring it won’t be much longer.
Post # 3
Awww. I can imagine how difficult that must be! But at least he said that it won’t be much longer!
Post # 4
@Meant2Bee: I know how you feel because I waited too. But once I knew he had the ring, I was able relax.
At least you know the ring is being procured. That should be a little comfort because he’s not just stringing you along.
I know it’s hard but try to calm down a little. I can see his point too.
That said, I hope it’s a short wait now:)
Post # 5
@Meant2Bee: i know how you feel!! It will happen! Make sure he doesn’t forget the ring like mine did!! lol
Post # 6
He has the ring (almost)!! That in itself is more than half of us on this board can say….so try to stay positive. Its coming!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
It’s coming soon, no reason to cry. He has the ring on the way… Enjoy your time before tying the knot. (: I have a feeling it’ll be here before you know it.
Post # 8
Aw, that sucks. That’s the worst when you expect it to happen and it doesn’t. It’s such a disappointment. For a while, I thought FI decided not to wait for the Amora Gem and had gotten a different ring (peach sapphire and rose gold? enhanced moissanite?), but then he pretty much said that we’re waiting for the Gem (and to move) and I knew it wasn’t coming anytime soon. It was really disappointing when I thought it was coming, so i know how you feel. But, a bit of a relief once I knew what we were waiting for – I bet that makes you feel better now that you know a ring is coming, it’s not here, yet, and once he gets it, he’ll slip it right on your finger asap! AND, he’s going to plan something special.
I almost think it’s harder to know it’s coming, but not know when, and assume you know when and get disappointed.. rather than not know it’s coming at all.
Post # 9
I know how you feel..I cride a lot too while I was waiting (I was so bad!). But it will totally be worth it. Don’t worry honey. He says it will be soon so try and enjoy life 🙂 He loves you!
Post # 10
@futuremrsk18: thank you, it was the feeling of disappointment! He said he searched for the ring I wanted so that’s promising.
I have stopped crying and I’m trying to think rationally and not so emotionally. I have no idea when it’s going to happen so it’s going to be a complete surprise.
Post # 11
Aw I’m really sorry hunny. Try to stay busy, he just wants it to be his special moment and a suprise to you! So try to stay optimistic 🙂
Post # 12
From the outside looking in it sounds like he had planned to have the ring for this trip for it was delayed. This would have made him sad (hence not getting out of bed right away) and would explain why he was angry when you were upset. It’s probably upset too!
Just try giving him some more of your time and your trust. I’m sure that once he has the ring it won’t be much longer.
Post # 13
@Meant2Bee: Awww. Well at least you had a good cry, then a good chat. 7 years is crazy long. I hope it happens soon 🙂
Post # 14
At least you know it is coming! That is one big step in the right direction! 🙂
Just think, some day you will be looking down at your ring, thinking about what it means, how he proposed and you won’t even feel the slight twinge of sorrow that it didn’t happen in the mountains.
I know it’s hard, I’ve been there! Keep reminding yourself, it is coming, he just needs the ring! 🙂 Then you and he can officialy show the world that you are ready to start your lives as a couple together!
Post # 15
@Meant2Bee: awwww, that bites. It sucks it didn’t happen but you know the ring is en route & he wanted it to be that time. But, it wasn’t to be. Its coming and will be amazing. chin up sweetie!!!<3
Post # 16
yay he has the ring ordered so you can relax and wait now (a little more securely ;P)
I’m in the exact same situation and thought my SO was going to propose a few weeks back and when he didn’t I cried in front of him so bad like hyperventalating and the whole 9 yards!
Neway he then told me he’s ordered it but just dosen’t have it yet. As a result I felt ALOT better- I haven’t felt this relaxed in our relationship in a very long time. The last few weeks I haven’t been completely obsessed with this marriage business although of course I think about hence why I’m here on weddingbee lol I know it will happen and it will happen for you too so chill out now and start getting excited you will be engaged soon!!