Post # 1
I dont understand it here it is he planned the day and no ring!! I am so upset and frustrated with him. My mom is upset that he showed me the ring and keeps me waiting. Enough is enough. This was a day yesterday we hiked two mountians and went to barhabah town and went around shopping and then went walking by the ocean. Then we wwent and sat by the ocean and nothing. He kept telling me he loves me and that i am beautiful and that i make him happy. Then WTF is he waiting for. Then of course he was more excited about the LOBSTAH then i was. I was disappointed and hurt. I really thought in my heart he was going to do it that day. But i was wrong. I have no idea what to do. I feel like a fool. Go to work with out a ring again. I love him very much but the ring is starting to feel like it isn’t going to happened. I am getting too old for this shit and waiting. He had the nerve to ask me is everything ok. ( i didnt say much on the way home just hurt and frustrated but bit my tongue) I am like WTF do you guys need to be told whats the matter. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist for this. I may not want to be engaged anymore. i really dont think i am being selfish. He has had the ring for a month and we had so much tiime alone and done things. I just can’t do it anymore. I am not 20 anymore.
Post # 3
Enjoy the days with him and he’ll propose when he is ready. And it will be a SURPRISE to you!
Post # 4
Try not to stress and worry!
He has the ring, it is intended for you, so it WILL happen. It might not be this week, or next week, or even next month but it will happen.
A month or two in the grand scheme of things isn’t long.
Post # 5
My man has had the ring for over a YEAR.
EDIT: The 2nd half of my post was eaten and deleted my weddingbee. Long story short, try not to think about the ring or you’ll go nuts like me. Just know it’s a mater of time
Post # 6
He’s probably nervous to propose, maybe he senses your expectation/frustration and it’s putting him off? You should just relax and let it happen when it will, and in the meantime enjoy your relationship with the man you love
Post # 7
He’s probably waiting until the moment feels right. I would bet that he has been carrying the ring around all of that time. Just try to remember that he already has the ring, and that is a commitment in itself & the proposal will happen soon. My Fiance had the ring for months before he proposed. Try to focus on the bigger picture. He probably isn’t going to propose to you if y’all are fighting or you are upset. Just my opinion. Good luck!
Post # 8
He has the ring, so it’s not like he’s not planning on asking. He is most likely waiting for the right moment, but if you keep getting frustrated then he may keep postponing it. Stop “waiting” and let him catch you off guard!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
We shopped together for a ring on July 7th the year we got engaged. By the way our jeweler was acting, he had already been there a few times. He had the complete ring by the end of that month.
He proposed on November 26th.
There were numerous times when I was sure it was going to happen, but it didn’t. I look back on that emotional roller coaster and laugh.
Enjoy the ride. You know it’s coming to the end soon. 🙂
Post # 10
That is not bad at all! ( I waited about three months.)
I think by being put out and upset you may end up delaying a proposal longer. It concerns me that you are now saying you don’t know if you want to be engagd anymore! Just because of a 4 week wait?
Post # 11
After a day like that I would be bummed too. Has he told you by when he would do it? Maybe he was planning on it but chickened out at the last second, I know a couple of guys who have done that. I would give him another couple of months before I made it an issue, I know that the waiting game is rough but you don’t want him to feel like he is only proposing to make you happy!
Post # 12
I would be putting it off too if you couldn’t enjoy a lovely day out with me.
Post # 13
Aww that really sucks 🙁 I’m sorry *Hugs*
Post # 14
I can understand why you’re frustrated. it sounds like it was the perfect day for a proposal! But he might have thought that you might have expected it to happen then, so he might have held back.
Hopefully he will do it very soon. <3
Post # 15
Okay updates!!!! He knew i was bummin so last night he said he knew why and he felt awful. HE FORGOT THE FRIGGIN RING!!! He admited to me he had it all planed out. But he forgot the ring!! He felt like a fool. Here i am didn’t think he wanted to. He said he has a back up plan to make up for it. So i guess i can wait a little longer. Thanks bees for being there!!! So i have something awesome to look forward too!
Post # 16
hahaha it figures. Leave it to a guy to forget the most important part lol
So now you know it’s likely going to happen Very soon, my suggestions is forget about it. You’re gonna drive yourself crazy if you think every day is IT. Or, set an imaginary line just for yourself (I just thought of this lol). Pretend he told you he’ll do it ON X (Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.) and if you want even tell him to encourage that date so you really believe it. That way it can be a surprise whenever he really does it. And if he makes a date involving lobstah or just dinner, keep thinking as long as it’s not the X, it’s not happening that night.
And whatever you end up doing, let us know what works and what doesn’t lol