Post # 1
I’m so…. I don’t know if this is the best way to explain it all, but I’m tangled up inside, I have this ball if hatred, hurt, frustration, and sight gone red anger over those three words…. “It doesn’t matter….”
My father, always approved of Fiance before he proposed. Still seems to love him after becoming Fiance, but every time we talk wedding stuff, my dad doesn’t take part, won’t utter a word. He lives in a different town, refuses to respond to calls and texts if they’re wedding related. He isn’t supportive of our first venue choice, so I cancelled and lost our date & deposit, and tonight we were discussing the new dream venue….
He agreed to maybe tour the new venue sometime in January, and when my mom asked when would be best, “it doesn’t matter, I’ve already seen the place (for his work) and I know what it looks like.” She called him out on it and said “so it doesn’t matter? It’s only your daughters wedding!?” He told her,rudely, to shut up. And Fiance and I promptly left, without sticking around to hear another word. My father doesn’t care, doesn’t show one ounce of interest in this wedding. Why do I try so hard to include him? Ugh!!!
Thanks for letting me vent, my father is just an ass, I know this… Always have, just this time I expected it to change…
Post # 3
my father is just an ass
If that’s the case, don’t include him?
Post # 4
I’m sorry you are going through this during a time which should be the happiest of your life so far! Hugs! Is it possible that maybe he’s in denial of his baby girl being grown and engaged? Men are odd creatures in that they lack the ability to handle emotions in a healthy way. Some get excited, others get wheepy, and then there is the set that acts like a douche so big, they could put Summer’s Eve into chapter 11! One day get your dad alone and talk about it…see what is eating at him. I hope it all works out for you.
Post # 5
Well… He’s a guy. He doesn’t care what the place looks like. Don’t take his words too seriously like that.
Post # 6
Who is paying for the wedding? Maybe he’s worried if he looks too enthusiastic you’ll try to hit him up for money or something.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re going through this. If your father isn’t having any sort of part in paying for the wedding then I would not include him in the planning process. I hope he does end up coming around though!
Post # 8
I don’t have any advice, but I feel for you. I sent the link to my father with my venue’s website, expecing him to say how nice it looked. Instead I got a reply telling me to just give him the address of the place so he could plug it in his GPS when he drove there for the ceremony.