- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hello bees ^-^!
I have a question for you all. My wedding is in October and I have been thinking long and hard as to who to ask to walk me down the isle. My parents are in Puerto Rico and unfortunately, my father has a form of dementia and my mother has to care for him and therefor it is quite impossible for them to make it to the wedding. I knew this much even before my Fiance proposed. My Godparents will be here and possibly my grandfather, depending on his health and while I am not 100% super close to them I am still very happy to have some family here. His family is mostly in Vietnam (he was born and raised here) so aside from his inmediate family, most of our guest list is compromised of very close friends. I have some very dear friends coming from Puerto Rico for the wedding who are like my family, including the photographers (husband and wife team who I have known since junior high and are doing our wedding photos as a gift! awww <3). Anyway, enough with the rambling and on to my question!
Well, the more I thought about it, the more I just felt that asking my Godfather didn’t feel 100% right to me. They’ve always lived in Chicago and aside from seeing them in 2007, I haven’t seen them much. But I needed someone right? All of a sudden, it hit me… my very best friend for the past 15 years and his wife, who is also like a sister to me, are coming to the wedding. He has been my confidant for years…never judging me, always giving me the very best advice.I still remember when he left for Disney for 7 months when we were in college on one of those college programs…boy did I bawl my eyes out lol. And let’s not even go into detail about when I moved to Boston… that was almost 8 years ago and we still talk, skype, email, etc etc etc all the time. When I thought of asking him my eyes got all teary and it just felt right! My Fiance met him when I brought him home to meet my family and friends and he said it is 110% fine with him and seems fitting, considering how close we are. I called up his wife first, just to see what she would say and then SHE started to cry and made me cry. My goodness lol. But I haven’t asked him yet (although I’m sure he’ll say yes). I worry about tradition though…will some people consider it wrong for me to ask someone who isn’t inmediate family? or have any blood relation to me at all? I don’t want my Godparents feeling offended ;_;… but it just feels like the perfect choice.
Any insight and opinions would be greatly appreciated!! Sorry it’s so long!