(Closed) It finally hit me and it hit me like a ton of bricks…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Dub D: Oh I have felt your pain! Darling Husband and I spent several summers/semesters apart due to internships and such – last year alone we spend the summer and fall in at least 5 and up to 8 hours apart. I remember getting sad/mad about the dumbest things. If I called and he was out with friends and said he’d call later – I’d sit on the couch and cry because I was all alone and didn’t know anyone in a new state and he was out having fun!I too couldn’t get the internet working – and to make it worse, I got terrible reception in the apartment and it kept dropping the call when he was trying to help me set it up!

If I called him several nights in a row and he was never the one to call – I’d argue with him about it – why could he never call me? Why couldn’t he ever think of things to talk about with me? Didn’t he understand that I just needed to hear his voice??

Try to remember that it will all be worth it in the end even though it does suck. Set up a couple visits now – even though they might be weeks or months away, being able to look forward to that is soooo helpful. I got a webcam which for me was the best thing ever – a lot of nights I’d just be on my couch reading and he would have his one while he was doing homework and such. Even though we weren’t actively talking to each other the whole time, being able to see him and talk when I wanted was great. Especially since the whole phone convo thing wasn’t going the greatest!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

LDR’s are hard i know. Just know that it’s going to get easier and it’s not forever, just until after the wedding.

When is your wedding? Perhaps a “countdown” calender posted up might help!

Don’t forget to invest in some good webcams and skype often!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Aw, hon, I know how much it sucks. Darling Husband and I were long distance while I went to grad school in the UK. He saw me off at the airport, but it didn’t really hit me until the first night in my new room when I had to go to sleep without him next to me…and then I bawled myself to sleep and conked out for 20 hours straight.

It gets easier, I promise.

Post # 6
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@Luckygal5571: yes! a countdown!  I started keeping one about 4 months before his graduation date. Every day in my planner I would cross a day off and it felt soooo good!

Post # 7
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Sorry, I’m being a reply monster here 😛

The worst for me were the couple days right after I saw him and even a little bit the time I did spend with him – I did a lot of ‘he’s only here for two more days and then he’s gone for another 2 months!’ which of course isn’t helpful!

But watching him leave/me leave was just the worst. Once you get a few weeks in, it becomes ‘normal’ to not have them around and it’s not as painful. But when you’ve just seen them again and realize how much you missed them, it sucks bigtime!

Post # 9
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Yeah, that moment when you realize he’s GONE is the worst feeling ever.  My Fiance and I spent nine months in a major LDR.  I was in Japan, and he was in Texas.  He did come visit me, though, about four and a half months before I headed home.  He said he has never seen anything so sad before in his entire life as my face when he walked through security at the airport so that he could fly back.  I cried the entire way home – and it was a six-hour-long trip.

I promise, though: it gets better.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m so sorry. I can definitely understand. I moved into a new apartment and didn’t have internet for a few weeks. Fiance and I are in a LDR, so being online to chat or videochat is our main way of communicating.

Is there any way that you can move? Would you be interested in moving? Two years is a long time! But it can work. I’ll be getting married next summer. Fiance and I will have been in a LDR for 4 years at that point.

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