It gets better! A word to those bees who are struggling with their SO.

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

X1000 YES! to your post. Congratulations on finding and experiencing a beautiful love that you deserve xo.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Epicpooka :  Go girl go! Well done. Congratualtions on sticking up for yourself and realising your self worth. You are worth so much more than he labelled you as. Wishing you all the luck in the world for your next chapter. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Your story will inspire a lot of women here. We all have the right to be happy and truly loved. I am really happy for you!

Post # 6
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Newbee

First of all, congratulations! I am so happy for you. I think the last words your ex said to you were completely unnecessary, this only proves how right and fortunate you were for leaving him. I’m just so glad that you got the happy ending you deserve.

I too had a long term emotional abusive boyfriend. Aside from not making time for me (sounds familiar?) He would do/say things to hurt me on purpose just to make me cry, like, all the time. Although he was the one who wanted to break up, he wouldn’t let me go in peace. After breaking up we agreed to be friends, but he couldn’t handle seeing me being pursued by other guys so he wanted to get back together, to which I said yes. Little did I know that he was just being his old possessive self and only got back together with me to use me for my body. I was quick to come to my senses this time and called it quits. For a while I thought I was damaged goods that nobody would want me again. within the same year I met a man who is now my boyfriend of nine years. He asked me to marry him three days into the relationship! I took it as a joke because we were still in our early twenties at the time, but he wasn’t joking. This August he finally asked me(without a ring) after he had a some drinks.  My response was “ask me again when you are sober and have the ring in your hand!” So yeah, fast forward to today, we are going to pick up my rings (we’d been shopping for my rings for two months since) in a few hours, I shall be officially engaged pretty soon! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

Thank you for sharing! I read so many stories on here that I feel align with your experience. It makes me sad that some don’t realize their value, making their decisions more on the time invested or continuing with what’s already in motion out of fear. Everyone deserves to be happy and have a partner who builds them up instead of breaking them down. I am so happy for you and hope it resonates with some of the bees questioning their troubled relationships. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

Thanks for sharing your story. I was in a similar situation, but it wasn’t quite as bad. After almost 9 years of dating (and 4 years of being engaged but never actually planning a wedding–thank goodness!), he cheated on me, and I STILL tried to make our relationship work…then about 3 months afterward, I found out he was still cheating and wasn’t trying to fix our relationship at all, so I finally left him. I was so scared of my future and thought I’d never fall in love again.

Now I’m in the best relationship of my life (don’t get me wrong–not every day is perfect, but overall we love each other deeply and support each other emotionally, financially, and professionally, which my ex never did for me). We’re also getting married next year, and I can’t wait!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Epicpooka :  Thank you for that post! I’m recently divorced from an abusive ex husband, and while I am free and I feel NO regret. I do wonder if I’ll find someone healthy who I can have a happy, healthy relationship with, and when that might happen. I’m only 26 so I have plenty of time, and I still believe I’m happier alone than with my ex, 1000%. It’s reassuring to read your story!!

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