- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014 - Garden
So, back in january I started this thread where long story short, I was complaining about my boyfriend wanting to buy a new car instead of an engagement ring. I want to thank all the wedding bees on that thread for giving me such great advice and for sharing your stories with me.
Now I am starting this thread because he finally proposed!!And I wanted to share my story for all of you bees hoping that you may find it useful.
We’ve been together for almost 4 years now, living together for the past 6 months, so in january I was really disappointed because he started talking about getting a brand new car and making big expending plans, like trips and stuff like that that left me thinking that he was very happy with the “living together but not married” situation, I wrote the thread and got so much kind advice from you guys, telling me to talk to him about how I felt, someone suggested to give him an ultimatum and some others told me that in fact, he was very happy with our current status so I shouldn’t wait for an engagement soon.
So I read every piece of advise, which was really helpful because I didn’t wanted to talk about it with my real friends or family about this subject, in fear that they may judge my decision of moving in. I decided that I was really happy with him, that I loved our life together, and that getting married was not important at this point of our life, and that I didn’t want him to decide to marry me out of pressure of me leaving. I quit the “when are we getting married” talk completely, and decided to love and embrace things the way they are.
Fast forward to this past weekend, we planned a small getaway to Las Vegas (we live in Mexico) to see our favorite band on St. Patricks Day. We invited our best friends to the concert. He got to Las Vegas on friday and I arrived on saturday. He took me to the mall and asked me to choose a pretty dress and matching shoes, he also got a new suit, tie and shoes. I wasn’t suspicious at all because he told me we would wear that for a friend’s wedding in 3 weeks.
He also decieved me telling me that we were going to share a room with 4 of our friends, but when he picked me up at the airport (in a beautiful convertible) he took me to a really beautiful suite at THE Hotel.
Then he took me to a helicopter tour over the strip, when we came back to the hotel he told me that we should definitely wear our new clothes, just for fun. So we did, and then we went up to a really nice retaurant with a beautiful view from the strip. I should mention that Lasa Vegas has a very special place in our hearts, so when we were there, with that view, talking about our wonderfull life together, I knew it. He got on one knee and asked me to became his wife. Then I had a brain fart and told him “Are you kidding me” he said “No, I want to marry you” then he put this beautiful ring on my finger. I don’t need to say that I said YES.
He also told me he started looking for rings since october, bought it 2 months ago, and he was waiting for the right moment, a special moment to propose. This whole time, the ring was hidden in my house.
I am so happy with my decision of stop nagging him and just let things flow, we are getting married next year on our 5th anniversary.
Sorry for the long post, and again thank you very much for your advise, and all your kind words!!
Here’s an instagram picture of my engagement ring, it couldn’t be more perfect. I am so blessed and happy.