(Closed) It happened to me! People inviting themselves to the wedding. Vent.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I haven’t experiened it (yet) but good lord… I can’t believe what she said!!!  I’d be pissed off enough to flat out say no and not feel bad about it.  How tactless for her to say that’s why she wants to attend the most special day of your life.

Post # 4
853 posts
Busy bee

Hmm, ya that’s a bizarre thing to admit—that you’d like to attend a wedding to see what it’s like. But, in the grand scheme of things, try not to get too bent out of shape. You don’t want any negative feelings to interfere with the excitement of the day, and hey, maybe you’ll get the reciprocal invite so you can ‘check out her wedding’ after 😉

Post # 5
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sorry. 🙁 Some people never cease to amaze me. I met a girl at a party and she found and friended me on FB a few months ago. We never talked a lot and never saw each other in person. Right after I got engaged though, the messages from her were nonstop. She was planning my wedding, telling me she could be my wedding planner and just came right out and said I’m invited right? Just mind blowing. It’s like you don’t know anything about me but you want to be at my wedding? Weirdo.

Post # 6
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, don’t ya just want to “Bride Slap” them silly

That and say outloud…

Sure, just so you know WE ALL (this side of the family) inturn EXPECT an invite to your Wedding to see “how it turned out… and if it was up to snuff”

Lol, ok I couldn’t help myself

Ya it happens, too many folks don’t understand Etiquette, or WHY their tagging on can be considered an “inconvenience” to those who are Hosting (really that is the part I’ve figured that causes all this… people just don’t think / realize what their presence costs… Invitations – Postage – Food – Beverage – Tables, Chairs, Dishes, Cutlery – Centrepieces – Favours etc)

The COST can be significant !!



Post # 7
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had my highschool teacher ask my family if she could come to the wedding. I haven’t seen or talked to her in 7 years! It’s just so random that she even wants to come.

Post # 8
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@DrRoberta:  Hope you’re putting your foot down on this one. You can ship her all your bridal magazines for inspiration. Unbelievable!!

Post # 9
28 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Happened to me too. I was out watching the NCAA Championship (Rock Chalk) and a girl I went to high school with and haven’t seen more than a few times since said “I know I’m probably not invited to your wedding, but if you have extra room I would love to go see what it looks like.” I’m having my wedding on the top terrace of a new hotel overlooking campus and she wanted to see the view. If you want to see the view go up there during a time when it is open to the public. I am very non-confrontational and was not prepared for that, I literally had nothing to say.

Post # 10
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Doesn’t she have any friends who have gotten/are getting married?  I’ve been invited to 4 weddings in the last 7 years.

Post # 11
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It happened to me too. I went ahead and made the adjustment and then the person was a no-show…


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