(Closed) It hurts!

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 4
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you have any itching or (sorry… gross) a bit of discharge down there at all?  You could have a mild yeast infection, and intercourse is causing your vaginal tissue to become inflamed, which is painful (obviously).

having had them myself, I can’t imagine that you wouldn’t know something was up, since after about day 3 they usually get so damned itchy there’s no question you have to run to the drugstore… but perhaps if you have a very mild case?

Are you using a water-based lube?  Check the ingredient list and if you see “glycerine” try a different brand.  Glycerine makes me itchy and sticky afterwards.

Other than those 2 suggestions, I’m afraid a doctors visit may be in order, and I would certainly not wait until your honeymoon!  Why live in misery?  Call her and make an appt as soon as you can. 🙂

Post # 6
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@imagine8204:  Bring it up again, and be persistent with her.  

She probably brushed it off because she’s thinking you’re “doin’ it” 3 or 4 times a night for a week at a time (ah… my 20’s… I remember them fondly 😉 and in that case it would be normal to get chafed and sore.  

Pain, real pain, (not a little tenderness from being a big vigorous) after a single intercourse session is not normal, nor should you be expected to live with it.

I would almost suggest it sounds like vaginismus, but from my understanding the tightening & pain occurs before or during intercorse, not afterwards… but in the interest of passing along as much information as possible, here’s a link



If this sounds like your symptoms, you can also search the boards here, because there are at least 2 Bees who have documented their journey through treatment, and you may find their posts helpful.


Post # 7
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Lots of lube – Astroglide is great – and definitely see a doctor if that doesn’t help.

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