(Closed) It hurts my heart when…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don’t bother correcting them, unless someone specifically asks you “are you and Mr. Violets married?”  Doing so just creates an awkward moment for both of you, and trust me, your grocery clerk does not give a hoot wether you’re married or not (nor is it any of their business.  Also, don’t think that hearing someone say “husband” will make your Boyfriend or Best Friend think to himself “Gee… if the dog groomer thinks we’re married, I’d better hurry up and propose”

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

For me, it was when I was single, and people would just assume there was a man in my life, to help out with things. I remember giving blood and the personal questions, my answering I was single-celibate, and some of the remarks I got. Or when the Doctor had me do some exercises and for a boyfriend to help me when there was no one. Or when women would ask me when I was going to have a baby. It really hurt, so, yeah. I hear you!

Post # 6
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

HE constantly tells ppl I’m his fiance! Argh.LOL If someone says it to me, I correct them, even though my coteacher still calls him my hubby.LOL

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@greenviolets: I’m glad it made you smile… in retrospect I was thinking maybe it sounded mean?  But that wasn’t my intention.  I just recall having a convo with another waiting bee who was trying to arrange for her Boyfriend or Best Friend to overhear her correcting someone thinking it would make him feel guilty that she had to say “no… it’s MISS hername, not MRS. hisname” and prompt him to propose.  Guys propose when they’re ready… period.  Don’t stress yourself out in the meantime.  And… I can virtually guarantee that the same happens to him.  They call my finace Mr. Mylastname at the grocery store all the time, and we get mail addressed to Mr and Mrs Mylastname.  He thinks it’s funny.  “Oh hey… this bill came for you and your Dad today”.  Hardy har har

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

As a former waiting bee, I can laugh now. Guys propose when they are damn well ready, and not a moment sooner LOL

Post # 9
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2893 posts
Sugar bee

I totally agree with the other ladies – strangers really don’t care if he’s really your husband or not, so don’t worry about the fact that you aren’t being 1000% honest by not correcting them. But, maybe try to put a positive spin on it. When I talk to friends I refer to my SO as my wife. 🙂 It’s a joke and he thinks it’s funny. But we have a pretty odd, sometimes perverse sense of humor. Sometimes you just have to make light of a situation because worrying, in the end, won’t change anything and just make you miserable while you deal with the status quo.

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