(Closed) It is a great idea lady, too bad its a bazillion dollars!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I find the phrase “we can’t afford that” to be more useful than the phrase “that isn’t in our budget”.  I don’t know why, but somehow it gets the point across more bluntly and people seem to feel less inclined to try to talk me into spending more money.  Just keep repeating the phrase, and eventually she may feel bad enough to hush.  maybe not…

Post # 4
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’d try saying exactly what you said to us. Something like, “no problem, we can do that but we’d need another $800. Are you willing to pitch in?” Barring that “that would be great, we can’t afford it” should suffice.

Post # 5
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Add up all the extras she wants throw it in a spread sheet and send it to her. Ask her is she plans on paying with cash or a card.

Post # 6
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3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@pasquel:LOL

I would tell her that she can add what ever she would like if she wants to cover the cost.

Post # 8
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

that’s how FI’s mom has been to me, everything is always well at fsil’s wedding we did this. So I just keep telling ohhhh well at our wedding between your son and I it’s going to be like this because this is what WE want! And now it’s to the point where Fiance is the only who really gives her details on the wedding because I know this is kind of horrible I have no desire to talk to her and to have to listen to how everything should be like his sisters because honestly I don’t care the wedding isn’t for them it’s for Fiance and I and for all we care if they don’t like it they don’t have to come and they just can just pay for his sister to renew her vows and then she can really have her daughters wedding day all over again! I just avoid her and the only communication between us is between Fiance and she occasionly posts stuff on my fb. her latest one was how FI’s sister picked out her dress for our wedding and that she hopes she’s likes it when it comes in! Errrr Future Mother-In-Law can be soooo frustrating!

Post # 10
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1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow I can’t believe she said that…. ok I would be trying to avoid her at this point, it doesnt sound like anything you say will get through to her… she’s acting as though this is her wedding, yet doesnt want to offer to pay for anything… next time just get your Fiance to deal with her and shrug her off as best you can.

Post # 11
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Ugh, my mom was like this, too. She had no idea what things cost, and she would be like, “No this?”, “no that?” Ugh! Money doesn’t grow on treeees! Now who’s the parents? Haha!

Finally, I asked her one days, “well, are you going to pay for it?” That stopped her 🙂

Post # 14
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ugh! Me and my Future Mother-In-Law clash all the time. Except in our case my family has more money than hers so she is constantly making comments about how she thinks things look cheap or thinks we should make upgrades. I seriously think she just wants my family to have to spend more money!

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