Post # 1
…that we should suffer so much fear and doubt over so small a thing. Such a little thing.
(Thought this quote was adorable, and appropriate, given the topic I want to discuss.)
My SO has always talked about our wedding bands matching, and this is something he really wishes for us to have. I was totally down with this, seeing as he bought me the exact engagement ring I wanted, and this was something I could do for him.
Now. His only request is that they be Tungsten Carbide, since it’s the most durable metal available (which he compares to our love..awwwh), and also because he works with his hands all day and wants to wear a ring but also not have to worry about cracks/wear as much.
I have hinted at getting matching Lord of the Rings wedding bands; the ones that have the writing engraved on the side. He is a HUGE fan of the trilogy, and also very much a geek. He was excited but said it was up to me.
There’s one issue. My engagement ring (which I haven’t gotten yet because he hasn’t proposed…ahead of myself, I know) does NOT match the look of the rings I feel he would love. However, since I plan on just wearing the wedding band on my left hand and moving the e-ring to the right after we’re married, I figure it won’t matter if my e-ring and band match, and I want him to have what HE loves as well. What do you think?
There’s a link with a band similar to what I like (first on the page)
Post # 3
your wedding bands don’t have to match. My FI’s ring looks nothing like mine.
Post # 4
@GroovyHippieChick: I think she’s saying that her fiance would like them to match, not that they MUST match.
I also wanted matching bands and so thats what we ended up doing. Mine is just a smaller width than his. My engagement ring won’t like anything like our bands, and I’m doing what you’re doing – switching my ERing to my right hand and wearing my wedding band on my left. Its perfectly acceptable for your wedding band to not match your engagement ring and if you like the LOTR band, go for it!
Post # 5
They don’t have to match. Do whatever makes you happy. Mine don’t match and I’ll be wearing them on separate hands once my wedding band is finished (German roots).
Post # 6
This sounds really cute, actually! And since you’re not planning on wearing both as a matched set on one finger, I don’t think it matters at all that your e-ring and band don’t go together.
The only thing that would prevent me from saying to go ahead with it is if the LOTR band made you cringe or you really, truly disliked it. But if it would make your fiance happy to have those rings and to match, and you don’t mind it (or like it! Hurrah!) then I wouldn’t let a matchy-matchy concern stop you from doing something so sweet.
Post # 7
If you’re moving your engagement ring over to your right hand, then it definitely doesn’t need to match your wedding band. So you and Fiance can get the same wedding bands from anywhere you want.
Post # 8
Lord of the Rings!! Why stick to something boring and traditional when there’s a unique option out there that both of you love? Especially if you’re moving your e-ring to your RH, it’d be no big deal at all.
Post # 9
DO IT!!! Since you’re switching your e-ring over to your right, you won’t have to worry about wearing them as a set. Just think of them as two totally different rings; you’d wear a right-hand ring that doesn’t necessarily “go” with the style of your e-ring or even a more traditional wedding set, so I don’t see why not!
LOVE this idea btw. Geeks for the win!
Post # 10
just responded to another one of your posts, but my SO is going to get the lord of the rings band as well. hahaha i’m also planning on moving my e-ring to my RH. we’re twins! 🙂
Post # 11
what if you got the engraving on the inside of the rings? so it would be LOTR but more subtle?
Post # 12
Hurray for more geek love! I’d totally go for it! My guy is very much a Lord of the Rings fan and I’m right behind him but I’m planning on a WoW emote for the engraving since that’s how we met, but I have thought of The One Ring too.
Post # 13
Well, your bands certainly do not have to match – and by this I mean your band does not need to match your ering (obviously your band does not have to match his band).
Personally, I would not really want a tungsten band for myself, but if you are happy with it, and plan to wear the ering on the other hand anyway, then go for it!
Have you also thought about complimenting bands without them matching identically (such as he can have the Tungsten, and you can have a different metal with the inscription inside or outside that does match more to your ering, if you do want to wear them together).
Post # 14
How do you feel about the LOTR ring? It says that the smallest available width is 5mm which is fairly wide for a woman’s ring. IMO, it is a VERY masculine looking ring, but if you love it and want to wear it, that’s all that matters!
They have a silver version, that is still pretty masculine IMO but less so:
Post # 15
Your rings don’t have to match at all. Mine and DH’s don’t. I love the LOTR idea.
I have a 4mm wide tungstun ring and it is pretty wide to me. I don’t wear another ring with it when I do wear it (I have a couple of different wedding rings so I alternate). You may want to get a cheap 5mm band from overstock and see if you like the width. You can always return it.
Post # 16
My engagement ring doesn’t match my wedding ring AT ALL, but I wear it on the right hand instead and love the look! 🙂 Get the rings you want to get. 🙂