(Closed) It is awesome to have to call someone and explain that you are an A**hole:(

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It happens.  I felt bad when I forgot to include a couple’s son.  He’s over 18, but is disabled and my sister told me to just include him on the parents invitation (it’s her BIL).  All there names didn’t fit easily, and I meant to back and add his and completely forgot.

Luckily, they asked my sister if he was invited.

Post # 4
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This happened to me as well. I’m like 10 days away from my wedding and I’m still remembering people I forgot to send invitations to. Don’t be too hard on yourself, it happens to a lot of us! I hope everything turns out well for you

Post # 5
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We heard that Fiance uncle isn’t coming because his cousin didn’t get an invite.  FI has A LOT of cousins.  It sounds like you handled it well and can be something you’ll both laugh about later.

Post # 6
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9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

It happens. I forgot to invite one of my cousins. He’s over 18 and lives part time with his mom (hes my aunts husbands’s kid from his first marriage but has been my cousin since he was 2 and the only non-blood cousin i have) so I intended to send him a separate invite to his house but then decided 18 year old guys don’t care about being invited on their own fancy invite and was just going to add him to the invite. But I forgot to do either… And then got an email from Mu mom saying my aunt was wondering if I purposely left him off because we’re not blood cousins. Totally mortified. 

Post # 8
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

These things happen – people slip through the cracks, all you can do is make your best effort to remedy the oversight.

I had something similar happen last week when the R.s.v.ps were coming back. We invited a branch of my mom’s cousins who I don’t know all that well (but we are the kind of family that does that – we stay in touch by extending invitations to weddings, and a few people from each branch usually do manage to attend.) A couple of years ago my mom and I had gone to one of their weddings … ours is a child-friendly wedding, and so I made sure to include people’s kids on the invitations. After the fact, though, I discovered that I’d missed the kids of two of my second cousins. Extra embarrassing because I had remembered to include the children of some of their siblings … so, I wrote to both of the second cousins to apologize and reassure them that, yes, their kids were also included and please just let me know if we need to add them to the list. My bad. *le sigh*

I’m sure she will be fine, and happy to be included!

Post # 9
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sure everything will be fine!  We all have guests who slip through the cracks.  I forgot to invite the church organist (also a family friend.)  I sent them a save the date, and had been emailing back and forth with him about the music for the ceremony, but for some reason he was not on the master list when invites went out, and I didn’t even realize it until after the response deadline!  I felt AWFUL.

Post # 10
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5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s okay – you just made a mistake.  You’ve done all you can to fix it.

Post # 11
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6586 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh don’t feel bad. It happens.

I forgot to send an invitation to Mother-In-Law. Clearly she’s coming, but I just totally overlooked it on the address list. Whoops!

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