Post # 1
I am pretty easy going. Ok…REALLY easy going. I have a tendency to just go with the flow. This comes from being 1 of 6 and pretty much having to compromise on most things my entire life. I have a very STRONG mom, STRONG older sister and very STRONG and delicate adopted sister. My brother married a very STRONG woman. My Fiance’s sister and mother are very STRONG women. The kicker….They all love me. Sounds great right?…..Well not when they are all in a complete pissing contest to see who can do what and for what and to whom and who is gonna pay and “She should…” AND “Well your Not!!!” is flying all around me for the past several months as ALL of these women and I mean ALL..are trying to take control of my shower, bachelorette weekend away and other things! I just want this to be a happy time with no drama….it has gotten so chaotic and there is so much behind the scenes talk…with horrible vibes of “She’s not gonna….” and “Who does she think she is….” I am ready to bail on all of my events!………advice?
Post # 3
Who’dve thought that having people like you could be so stressful? Do your various family members know that you’re aware of their conflicts and that all the squabbling is causing you major stress?
Post # 4
Ok, here’s what I did, its really kinda simple in my case, hope it’ll work in yours- I told everyone involved, and I mean everyone, that I do not want to hear anything about the parties. That’s their business. I told them I’ll be thrilled with whatever happens but its not something I have to help plan so I want to be uninvolved. It really is a quick fix, assuming everyones willing to leave you out of it. My peeps had a hard time at first but they eventually realized I wasn’t kidding.
Post # 5
Ditto jennifer espos’ advice – reach into yourself and find your inner STRONG woman, and tell them they are seriously stressing you out with the drama! Try to do it in a way that doesn’t make any of them feel like you’re taking sides – perhaps do it when they’re all in the room, making sure not to make eye contact with any of them – and tell them you don’t want to hear about any of it.
Post # 6
WONDERFUL ADVICE! I am so on it. I will tell them at the bachelorette weekend. I know it is a good thing…they all love me ALOT! But I am getting dizzy and they are all trying to confid in me…(I am a therpaist and this is an occupational hazard). I will do this. Thank you.
They are all calling and telling me what happened to them cause they feel close to me. So they know I know THIER part but do not know I know everyone elses parts too!