Post # 1
So, just a bit of an interesting story! lol. When I was younger I always wanted one child because I always dreamt of being an only child myself. As I got older and really thought about the family I wanted, I decided on the “perfect” two. Now, we’re up; to three – whyh? I don’t know! I just know I want three chldren! Fiance will have to get ready quick or I’ll end up wanting 6 by the time we TTC! hehe. Anyone else had this experience?
Post # 3
I think that may be normal. As you grow and get new life experiences your perspective changes. As I said in another post- you never know how you will really feel until the baby gets here. A bunch of kids might sound great until you realize how overwhelming it can be. Or you might think you only want one until you see how cute your babies turn out!
Post # 4
I agree with PP. I would wait and see. I had a friend who wanted six kids (1/2 adopted, 1/2 biological) and now that she has one and is overwhelmed (for a variety of reasons I won’t go into here), she is seriously considering stopping at one or waiting a while for number 2. Conversely, we know of a lot of people who have two and the youngest is already 6 or 7 and then they’re like “Oh heck why not?” and go for a third even though they originally planned for two.
In addition, once you do the math and the finances, you may want to reconsider the number of kids as well. They really can add up!
Post # 5
Haha I guess I’m the opposite, or at least my husband is. The first time we ever talked about kids, he said he wanted 3, and I thought to myself “wow that’s a lot!”. Then he said 2 and we had basically decided on 2, about 4-5 years apart. Once I got pregnant, he started thinking he’d be fine with just one. 😛 Who knows what we will decide once she gets here, haha. I am thinking we’ll want another in a couple years, but he thinks he’ll be satisfied with just the one. Definitely going to play it by ear!
Post # 6
It’s definitely one to play by ear – the only thing I know for sure is that I will have at least two – purely based on personal experience, I can’t imagine not having siblings, and Fiance was an only child and had a bad experience with it admittedly his mother isn’t really in the running for best mother of the year!) But based on that, we’ll have at least two! I just feel like children learn so much from having siblings. As I get older I can’t imagine having a small family – my children wont have many cousins their own age so I want them to have each other. But again, who really knows until it happens! It’s just funny how it changes so often! lol