Post # 1
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947 posts
Busy bee
Hey bees,
ive posted on here a few times about my future mother in law. I am just coming to the realization that I just flat out do not like this woman as a person and it truly breaks my heart. I don’t have parents and I was so looking forward to gaining a mother but this woman is just far too selfish and self involved and has honestly not given any effort into getting to know me at all. Not that she really has to, it jus breaks my heart that I’m marrying into a family that I dislike. It’s just so disappointing that my future won’t be what I was really hoping it would be. It’s really getting me down. I haven’t spoken to my fiancé about it too much. Because of the type of person she is, he isn’t close with her at all himself so he never was expecting for me to be close with her. I guess it just meant alittle more to me than I realized. Did anyone else go trough this as well and how do you emotionally handle it?
Post # 2
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121 posts
Blushing bee
alfalfasprout10518 : I feel the same way. His mother drives me insane. I wish Future Mother-In-Law was normal and just a nice lady! She has made no effort to get to know me either and when I ask her questions she talks through FH instead of to me. So so weird. I hope it gets better though!
Post # 3
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7189 posts
Busy Beekeeper
That is disappointing, though I think it’s good that you realize it now so you aren’t marrying into the family and wondering why you feel bummed or off when you do interact with her.
Post # 4
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27 posts
Newbee
You’re not alone. I’ve been married 4 years and my inlaws have never made an effort to get to know me. I’ve stopped trying and adjusted to having friends as family. Choose your own family, there are so many great people out there who will be there because they care about you not because they feel obligated to by blood.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
You’re not alone…sort of. My Future Mother-In-Law is wonderful – but FI’s brother and sister are really difficult to be around. I always wanted a big family – always wanted a brother (love my only sister dearly – she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor, but like, wish there was a few more of her). They never make an effort. In fact I don’t really remember a time where I’ve said something and Future Sister-In-Law hasn’t sneered in my face…. they never make an effort, are never kind. Future Brother-In-Law refuses to be FI’s Groomsman. Just really average human beings. -_- I think disappointing in-laws are the hallmark of marriage. I handled it by moving 3,000ks away from them.
Post # 6
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947 posts
Busy bee
i guess i just dont really understand that whole thing. if my child gets married i know iwould want a relationship with their significant other. my fiance is an only child and a man so i was kind of hoping that being a woman his mother would at least try to embrace me. she just doesnt at all. she only does in public when she wants to parade around her “sons beautful fiance” but thats it. its all for show. its very uncomfortable