(Closed) It makes me sad when people "steal" boy names for girls.

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 122
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Im all for naming your child whatever you want to. However…

I think of it in the practical applications as an adult. Nothing is more frustrating working in a call centre when you have to phone someone with a unisex name and have no idea if you are asking for a Mr. or a Ms. or what. Then if you take a stab at guessing it and you make the wrong mistake you are made to feel like a tool, and it sets a bad vibe for the whole interaction. It sucks! 

Unless we strive to create some universal gender neutral pronouns which i think are long over due. 

Post # 123
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t see the big deal. Names evolve just like people and society evolves.

Post # 124
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love switched gender names! My mom had a sister named Kevin which I think is pretty rock and roll. Ashley Angel was totally the hottest one in O-Town. I may use a unisex name for my future children! I think introducing names as being unisex is a great thing for future generations. Taylor, Jordan, Kyle… I think these names got better with the unisex thing!

Post # 125
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

I’ve actually seen more of the reverse, boys being named names I thought were girls’ names, but are apparently gender-neutral names. They often end with an N or Y.

It tends to throw me, but I don’t know. How can I be sad about it? Why are you sad about it?

What exactly is wrong with giving people gender-neutral names? Maybe this is a good trend. We’ve only picked out a potential future son’s name so far, and it’s a classic boy’s name…if we have a daughter it will not be her name. But I kinda always disliked that so many female names sound weaker than male names. They have endings that are similar to “cute” nicknames or for “little” versions of things. Even the “cute” shorter version of most male names sounds stronger than the female names.

Male version: ends usually with a consonant, a strong sound, like a T or a K, e.g. Mark. When ending in a vowel, it is usually an O, which sounds strong (e.g. Marco). My Fiance has a strong classic male name of this form. It sounds like a statement!

Female version: Soften down that male name with a nice “ette” or “elle” or “ia” or at least a nice, weak-sounding, “a” or “e”. Or maybe make the whole thing be sort of soft and wimpy sounding. Marcette? Marcelle? Marcia? Marca? Marce? Sigh. I have a weak classic female name of this form. It sounds like a question?

Who sounds stronger, Marco or Marcia? Mark or Marcette? Is it good for us to be creating this biased world for a children as soon as we give them a name?

When I was born, they looked at me and said, what a good boy, what a smart boy, what a strong boy. When you were born, they looked at you and said, what a good girl, what a smart girl, what a pretty girl, yeah….

Post # 126
1334 posts
Bumble bee

My best friend named her daughter Logan. I’ve only known boy Logan’s so I don’t really like it. My SO’s name is Leslie and he doesn’t go by that. No one really knew his real first name for years growing up.

Post # 127
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@fiver:  +1 and I love all of your choices.

Avery, Rowan, Harper, etc. All three of those names I listed seem like men’s names to me. That’s what I’d assume they are, anyway. 

Our boy is getting the manliest man name though. He might as well be named cock and balls. Someone asked why we wouldn’t use it if it were a girl, though, so it’s all subjective.

Post # 128
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  My name is Riley and the only thing that bothers me about it is getting things in the mail addressed to Mr. Riley _____.

I said this on the other thread, but I am the youngest of 4 girls and all of us have a unisex name.  I didn’t like having to correct people, or having people surprised when they met me in person, meeting a girl when they are expecting a guy.  It does make for some interesting conversation though.

Names are so personal; I don’t bother getting upset over what other people name their kids.  If you have a son and want to name him Grace, more power to you.

Post # 129
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

As an aside, you know that episode of the Simpsons where Homer names himself after a hairdryer? I always thought that was the best name ever.

I’d love to rename myself Max Power. And not have anyone raise a single eyebrow when I give my name. And no, “Cat Power” is not remotely the same. 😛

Post # 130
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mamadingdong:  I was thinking the same thing.

I dont know why it matters… I think everyone should name their children what they want. I have no idea why people get so worked up about other people’s names. If you dont like it, dont name you child it. There are bigger battles to fight.

Post # 131
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Yeah… I don’t know why this would make anyone sad or upset. If you don’t like naming your girl a name that is traditionally a boys name then don’t. No reason to get upset/sad or even give a shit.

I still don’t know what Pat is (male/female/other) and you don’t hear me being sad about it!

Post # 132
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013



My point is that it is the adults that judge kids’ names as “different” or “weird” and comment on them all the time that cause problems.  Yes, kids pick on other kids.  But I see it as a bigger problem that ADULTS are so judgemental of the names people choose for their kids.


Post # 134
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@joya_aspera:  Love that ep. Also where he names himself Lance Uppercut.

Post # 135
1191 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@quierajen: I totally disagree with you for many reasons. This reminds me of the story I heard the other day. A young (5-7 I think?) boy broke his arm and went in for a cast. The doctor asked what colour he wanted, and the boy picked pink. The doctor asked him if he was sure he wanted pink, as it was typically a girl colour. The boy replied “colours don’t have genders, and I want pink because it’s breast cancer awareness month”. F**king-A, little man!

My name used to be a boy name back in the day. Who cares? Just like colours, to me, names shouldn’t have genders either. If someone named their son Rose, I’d applaud the heck out of them. In fact, a LOT of French Canadian boy names have “Marie” in them. Jean-Marie, etc. Marie is definitely considered a feminine name in both English and French, but nobody bats an eye at a man named Jean-Marie in Quebec.

I also knew a guy named Lindsay in high school, and a good (male) friend of mine is named Lorin (pronounced the same as Lauren) and in no way did I ever think of them as being “feminine” just because of their names. Get over your gender-shaming pppllllleeeeeaaaaase.

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