(Closed) It seems as though we’ll never save anything… (Rant/vent)

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SouthernGirl: My mom just sending me an email about a girl that I grew up with getting engaged last week didn’t help. She probably could have left out all of the fawning over him and how I should have picked a man like that because he “had enough money to buy his girlfriend an engagement ring”… Really? Thanks mom.

Your mom really said that?  Wow, that’s rough.  I’m sorry. 🙁

Post # 4
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hey — I just kind browsed over your other entries and notice a reoccurring theme. You are very unhappy.

Have you explained to your fiancé how unhappy you are? It seems like you are needing some support … and not with material matter, but just for him to care about how unhappy you are.

Whats your everyday life like, if you son’t mind me asking.

 

Post # 7
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

How old are you and your Fiance if you don’t mind me asking?

Post # 8
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Is the engagement ring an absolute must-have? IMO even though so much importance is place on the Engagement Ring, it really is just a symbol. You both already are engaged right? So having the ring doesnt make the engagement any more “real” If you just want an outward symbol can you buy a cheapie CZ ring for around 100 for now and then upgrade later? Considering that he is only making 16000 in the whole year I personally dont think that getting an engagement ring should be a priority.

I think right now both of you should focus ALL your energy on searching intensely for a job. When Fiance was job hunting he sent out no less than 75 applications EVERY DAY. You gotta be super aggresive and relentless about it and pray hard if your are religious. Once you have more income half your “unhappiness” will fade away

Post # 9
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SouthernGirl: yeah, whats your daily life look like? Do you have purpose in your day? Places to go? Friends to see? Work that needs to be finished?

Forgive me if i’m forward, it just sounds a lot like what I went threw after college and i just want to try and help.

I think sometimes when we, humans, don’t have purpose in life, it can cause us to feel down, unworthy and depressed. I know.. I’ve been there.

I was out of work for almost 2 years. I was so depressed, never having anything to modivate me. Then I decided i’d just give up the job hunt and start my own business, sure it’s not easy and money isn’t as steady as a 9-5er, but in all honesty i’ve never felt so much purpose before with any other job, and now that i’m engaged, I feel like I can fill my time with not just work purpose, but wife-like purpose too.. it was really what threw me into my new perspective in life and out of depression.

 

/edit/ i just saw your entry. sorry if i got redundant haha.

Post # 12
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SouthernGirl: Could you get a job and then use the money to help pay for more dinners, etc., so Fiance can save for a ring?  Since you said he’s “old-fashioned” I’m assuming that he will not let you contribute to your own ring.  If my assumptions are wrong, then maybe getting a job and paying for part of your ring is an option.  Also, like previous posts have said – $700 on a $16,000 a year salary is huge.. Maybe he doesn’t want to look at rings because it reminds him of what he wants to give you, but cant.  I know looking at super expensive venues/dresses/photographers makes Fiance kind of sad b/c it’s a reminder of what he probably can’t afford.  Just a thought.

Post # 14
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SouthernGirl: Sorry I must have skipped over that in your original post!  Good luck with your job search and situation.. 🙁

Post # 15
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just to let you know, my guy bought me a 150 dollar wedding ring. His secret was purchasing it at a jewelery store that was closing for 80-90 percent off. You all need to shop around. There are deals out there! Don’t give up, it will come.

 

I’m now saving for a wedding. Had a thousand saved and my dad decided that he would blow his money, and didn’t have enough for rent. There went my money for the wedding, because apparently I’m made of money and can pay double rent, car payments and other things by myself with no problems lol. That’s life, and I’m telling myself that I will be able to save something soon. Because goodness knows I won’t get any of that money back.

Post # 16
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2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think you should put the whole marriage thing on hold until you can afford it, if u guys cant afford the ring how on earth are u going to pay for the wedding, maybe this time in your life should be spent on trying to est a career, purchasing a house…college…..marriage seems a long way off right now…but that’s ok I waited 10 years b4 I got married. we are now 28 and 34 own our own home have finished all our studies, and earn good money.

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