(Closed) It seems like everyone else is getting what I want more than anything

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Have you considered going to a doctor?  It might be hard for you to know when to try and conceive when your period is so irregular.

Good luck, I’m sure that good things will happen for you!

Post # 4
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh, I’m so sorry that you’re struggling and feeling sad about it.  I get jealous too – it’s a natural feeling and you shouldn’t feel bad about it.  I allow myself to have that twinge of jealousy and then I move on and feel happy for the person.  I KNOW that it’ll be my husband and me very soon!

Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility?  It is incredibly helpful – I think especially if you don’t have a regular cycle.

Depending on how old you are…if you’re 35 or older, you should see your doctor after TTC for 6 months without a pregnancy.  If you’re under 35, after a year you should go talk to your doctor.

Good luck!!

Post # 5
151 posts
Blushing bee

Sweetie, It will happen when it’s supposed to.  I see you are already about to see an M.D. and this is good.  But just relax and enjoy your life!  Jealousy is natural, as long as you overcome it and move on to happiness for the other people, you’ll be just fine.  If, God forbid, it doesn’t happen, there are still many other options out there for you to raise a family.  There are so many children already here that have no one to love them or care for them.  Count your blessings and you will see, life is beautiful.  Good luck with the conception and have fun practicing Wink

Post # 6
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Can you reframe things a little bit and get excited about getting your cycle regular first and foremost?  That way instead of seeing each step as an impediment, you actually feel like you are achieving goals toward your dream outcome?  Every journey starts with just one step and it sounds like you are doing all the right things to get there!

And of course feel free to vent anytime 🙂

Post # 9
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry this is difficult for you.  I agree that even seeing a doctor to help develop a course of action may make you feel better!  

Post # 10
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I’m sorry you are having such a crummy time. *hugs*

Post # 12
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@JewishBride: Hey. I feel the EXACT same way as you. I am ttc after a miscarraige. Its been about 6 months since we’ve been ttc. Last month I thought for sure I was prego but I guess my body likes messing with my head. If you’re like me, you get very jealous at people that can get pregnant so easy. But I think this “jealousy” just roots from sadness and not envy. I wish I could give you words to comfort you but i cant because im in the same boat as you. I have began to become withdrawn a little bit. Im just not as happy anymore. I feel like Im worthless at times. My FH listens to me nag about it sometimes, but other times he’s like “ok thats why its not happening cause you keep stressing about it!” To me its like a catch 22. I mean, how can i help not stressing when i fail month after month?! Everyday I get  reminded of my failure when i go to work to be around TWO coworkers that are pregnant. Ugh it justmakes me want to scream! So i guess all i can say is good luck to both of us and all those who are ttc.

Post # 13
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m sorry

And don’t feel bad

I mean..I feel bad!  haha!     and I am really not joking…I actually feel some guilt that it worked so fast.

Nothing that we feel is “wrong”.  It is ok and it doesn’t make you a bad person at all.


Also…I think you have every right to hope when it’s only been 4months. They say that 80% of couples get pregnant in a year…and that means that for many…it can take the whole year.   

I know I am not really one to talk right now….  but don’t feel bad about how you feel and I am sorry if I made you feel worse today. Thanks for being so supportive on my thread when you are going thru your own struggles.


Post # 15
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@JewishBride: I completely understand how you are feeling and  it is very normal. On our 11 mth trying with fertility meds. It does seem like everyone around is popping up pregnant and it does eat at you.

I will say though, especially in my situation and what I hear from others in my same position; hearing comments “it will happen when it is suppose to” or “stressing about it is why it is not happening”, is about the worst thing you could say to someone TTC. I know some say it for comfort and help, but honestly, you can never really know someones situation and deep feelings. We all know the stats, but it doesn’t make it any easier to understand. I am sorry, but I hate these comments more than anything.

Good luck!

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