(Closed) It seems like it happens to everyone around me…

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
5107 posts
Bee Keeper

@tnbellebee:  You, m’lady, ARE NOT, alone. I think most of us TTC ladies feel the same way.. It’s so frustrating. I just have to keep telling myself, “It’s not a race.” I’m sorry that you are feeling down =( Sending hugs your way. Have you considered reading Taking Charge Of Your Fertility, maybe tracking your basal body temperature, or using ovulation predictor kits?

Post # 5
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh Girl… do I know how you feel! I agree with @chucknorris… You have to remind yourself that it is NOT a race. Have faith that you WILL be a mommy one day and that it will happen for you. 

I know the journey is hard… there have been so many points when i just felt like giving up but I have to keep positive and remind myself that even healthy couples can take up to 1 year to be concieve. 



Post # 6
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, when I hear that a friend or relative is pregnant, I don’t really assume that it was super easy for them. TTC isn’t something I discuss with people, usually, so I generally have no idea how long they tried. Two of DH’s cousins got pregnant four months after their weddings. Maybe it was their first cycle trying. Maybe they had been trying since the wedding and it was their fourth cycle. Maybe they weren’t trying at all. Who knows?

Anyway, I’m like you in that I had myself convinced I would have a hard time getting pregnant – even though I had nothing to base those fears on. Even if you’ve been NTNT for a while, try not to get yourself too worked up. Give yourself at least a few months of actually trying before you start to worry (I know that’s easier said than done!)

Post # 8
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I feel your pain, I grew up in the teen pregnancy rush, many of my friends got pregnant young and even more got married and had more children right after graduation. I on the other hand took longer to find my Mr. right 🙂 It didn’t bother me much when I was younger but as I’m getting older and now my friends younger siblings are all having babies and my younger cousins are popping all these kids out, yeah it does get to me.

I think that’s a very normal human emotion. I cringe everytime I see a new announcement or ultrasound on Facebook, not to say I’m not happy for them, just jealous >.< I sometimes sit there and stare at the ultrasound thinking *someday that will be me, and that will be mine*

Best of luck!! I’m sending many many hugs!!

Post # 10
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not that this works for everyone, but your body’s stress can really mess with your hormones. Try just relaxing and not trying to get pregnant. how about a romantic weekend away? Get a room with a hot tub and get into it with your hunny and a nicd glass of wine or champagne. Taking the stress off of feeling like it is something you have to do will bring back the excitement and joy of the physical part of your relationship. Things will fall together and when it is time, you will have your little bundle of joy. Good luck!

Post # 11
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have felt this way for the past year+. DH and I waited until we were married and felt financially stable. Many of my friends had kids out of wedlock, with no jobs, etc. I was so jealous and angry. It always feels like a slap in the face when I see these girls getting bfps. 

Post # 14
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i’m at the point where people who announced their pregnancies since we’ve been trying are having their babies, and we’re still waiting for a freaking BFP…

it’s tough, but I try to remind myself that “their pregnancy does not decrease the chances of me getting pregnant” – I’m a statistics kinda person, so this helps me deal with the ‘it’s not fair’ feelings.

Good luck, hope you get your turn soon!! (…and then we’ll be jealous of you Wink )

ETA: the longer you try, the more you find out the difficulties other people had – like my friend with the beautiful baby who took 9 months to conceive, and another who has just had a 3rd failed IVF attempt. It’s just that people are more likely to share their “we only tried once” stories!!

Post # 16
1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Seriously??!!! That’s wonderful!! Congrats, Momma!  Cramps are normal. You should only worry if you are spotting too. 

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