Post # 1
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Busy bee
Am I the only one who feels like everyone around them just gets pregnant…no planning, no agonizing wait, just, surprise!
I just feel like that could never happen to me…we tried the NTNT thing for a few months but honestly, I am tired of feeling so upset when AF comes to town or I am holding a BFN test. We honestly haven’t been at it that long, and I have no reason to believe that it won’t happen for us, but sometimes I wish that I could just magically forget things like when my last period was, etc….I am so forgetful about everything else, but never that!
I’m not sure that this makes sense or is just mostly ranting, but am I the only one? 
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
@tnbellebee: You, m’lady, ARE NOT, alone. I think most of us TTC ladies feel the same way.. It’s so frustrating. I just have to keep telling myself, “It’s not a race.” I’m sorry that you are feeling down =( Sending hugs your way. Have you considered reading Taking Charge Of Your Fertility, maybe tracking your basal body temperature, or using ovulation predictor kits?
Post # 4
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Busy bee
@ChuckNorris: I’m going to give it another month of the old fashioned way before I start doing BBT, etc….maybe that is foolish, but I just somehow feel this pull to give it another shot that way. I just am stuck on how magical it must feel to be completely surprised by those two lines.
Thank you for your kind words…it helps to have people who are going through it to talk to. Hopefully it will happen soon for all of us!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Oh Girl… do I know how you feel! I agree with @chucknorris… You have to remind yourself that it is NOT a race. Have faith that you WILL be a mommy one day and that it will happen for you.
I know the journey is hard… there have been so many points when i just felt like giving up but I have to keep positive and remind myself that even healthy couples can take up to 1 year to be concieve.
Post # 6
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Honey bee
Well, when I hear that a friend or relative is pregnant, I don’t really assume that it was super easy for them. TTC isn’t something I discuss with people, usually, so I generally have no idea how long they tried. Two of DH’s cousins got pregnant four months after their weddings. Maybe it was their first cycle trying. Maybe they had been trying since the wedding and it was their fourth cycle. Maybe they weren’t trying at all. Who knows?
Anyway, I’m like you in that I had myself convinced I would have a hard time getting pregnant – even though I had nothing to base those fears on. Even if you’ve been NTNT for a while, try not to get yourself too worked up. Give yourself at least a few months of actually trying before you start to worry (I know that’s easier said than done!)
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@MrsStrawberry24: Thanks for your encouragement! I need to ban myself from FB for awhile…a friend from HS is PG with her FOURTH child. I don’t desire that many at the moment by any means, but I would just love to have the experience of being pregnant and having a child….I have no reason to believe that it won’t happen for me, but nonetheless, I still manage to be a green-eyed monster about once a month!
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I feel your pain, I grew up in the teen pregnancy rush, many of my friends got pregnant young and even more got married and had more children right after graduation. I on the other hand took longer to find my Mr. right 🙂 It didn’t bother me much when I was younger but as I’m getting older and now my friends younger siblings are all having babies and my younger cousins are popping all these kids out, yeah it does get to me.
I think that’s a very normal human emotion. I cringe everytime I see a new announcement or ultrasound on Facebook, not to say I’m not happy for them, just jealous >.< I sometimes sit there and stare at the ultrasound thinking *someday that will be me, and that will be mine*
Best of luck!! I’m sending many many hugs!!
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@Sigyn: Thanks for commiserating with me! It’s so good to know that other people “get it”….most of the people that I know either don’t want kids right now, or have several. The girl I mentioned who is on her 4th is always whining about being uncomfortable, etc, and while I want to be a good friend and sympathize, all I can seem to manage to do is nod and think in my head “shut up, shut up, shut up! you get to BE pregnant!” I know that sounds terrible, but it’s coming from a sore spot.
Admittedly, we haven’t been at it that long, and quite honestly, it’s mostly been NTNT rather than TTC, but I guess it was just a real shocker that you just don’t get pregnant as soon as you go off the pill! Sex ed lies, haha!
Post # 10
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Busy bee
Not that this works for everyone, but your body’s stress can really mess with your hormones. Try just relaxing and not trying to get pregnant. how about a romantic weekend away? Get a room with a hot tub and get into it with your hunny and a nicd glass of wine or champagne. Taking the stress off of feeling like it is something you have to do will bring back the excitement and joy of the physical part of your relationship. Things will fall together and when it is time, you will have your little bundle of joy. Good luck!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
I have felt this way for the past year+. Darling Husband and I waited until we were married and felt financially stable. Many of my friends had kids out of wedlock, with no jobs, etc. I was so jealous and angry. It always feels like a slap in the face when I see these girls getting bfps.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@turkey22: Thanks for the suggestion…that’s what I’ve been striving for the last few months, but it just hasn’t happened yet. I’m usually a very laid back person, but this has been one thing that I haven’t been able to just let go of. 🙁
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@apex: EXACTLY. My husband and I own our house, have good jobs, don’t smoke or drink, and so on and so forth.
I have a relative that is extremely into drugs and bad living, and she has several children. Many people that I went to school with flit in and out of terrible relationships and produce children. While I’m sure that it is hard to cope with a pregnancy that you weren’t prepared for, it DOES feel like a big slap in the face for some of us.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
i’m at the point where people who announced their pregnancies since we’ve been trying are having their babies, and we’re still waiting for a freaking BFP…
it’s tough, but I try to remind myself that “their pregnancy does not decrease the chances of me getting pregnant” – I’m a statistics kinda person, so this helps me deal with the ‘it’s not fair’ feelings.
Good luck, hope you get your turn soon!! (…and then we’ll be jealous of you 
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ETA: the longer you try, the more you find out the difficulties other people had – like my friend with the beautiful baby who took 9 months to conceive, and another who has just had a 3rd failed IVF attempt. It’s just that people are more likely to share their “we only tried once” stories!!
Post # 15
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Busy bee
Well…I tested 3x this AM…all BFP! I am so so thrilled, and so so scared. I want this to work out so badly…but just trying to relax now and take every moment as it comes…..I feel a little crampy, which terrifies me, but after hours of research, this is apparently normal?
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
Seriously??!!! That’s wonderful!! Congrats, Momma! Cramps are normal. You should only worry if you are spotting too.
