(Closed) It seems like no one has anything positive to say about our wedding :( (LONG)

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@jenart:  I am sorry there is so much family drama. I think that if I were you, I would elope somewhere romantic so that my wedding day would be overshadowed (or worse, overtaken) by family drama.

Post # 4
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3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This might not be what you want to head, but based on that… I would elope, alternatively make the wedding MUCH smaller – just incorporating those people that have supported you.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If this is really making you feel that upset about your wedding day, then maybe you should just elope. A wedding is a day to celebrate with family and friends. It should be an exciting beginning filled with the support of the people you care about. If you don’t feel like you can get that support from them, maybe you and your FI should elope and have a happy, stressfree ceremony shared between the two of you. Maybe invite your dad and MOH and BM since they’re supportive, but there’s no reason to go through with the whole wedding if they’re making you so unhappy. It sounds like there have just been a lot of little things to add up to some pretty big emotions. I don’t think anyone can blame you for being very upset with this situation. Maybe it will get better, but if it doesn’t, I think I would elope. Then my wedding day would be happy! And I could take the $3000 for the wedding and spend it on a great honeymoon.

Hope it all works out for the best!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@jenart:  Seriously, elope.  You will save a huge headache dealing with all of these petty issues.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I would DEFINITELY elope in your situation. That just sucks.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@jenart:  *HUGS*  Families can turn into monsters when it comes to planning a wedding.  It happens all over the boards, all the time.  They still love you and want you to be happy, it’s just that wedding planning brings out the worst in people (they all want to think it’s somehow all about them).  It sounds like you’re getting some awesome deals for the venue and reception, but if it’s too much of a headache why not go with your impulse to elope?  You’re absolutely right when you say that there are always people who won’t agree with your decision; so you just have to pick your battles.  Best of luck with everything!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jenart: Thanks for giving us an update, it really sounds like the best solution and I’m so glad that you both feel happy with this new plan! Hope you have a great wedding day and a wonderful honeymoon!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jenart:  do what you want. it’s about you and him and no one else. if they aren’t making you happy then do something that will make you happy, evne if it means leaving them out of it.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congrats on making the change to an elopement. You can’t please everyone so you might as well make yourselves happy.

Post # 13
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congratulations and have fun in Orlando.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Congrats on the new plans! I was ready to chime in and say “elope!” before I read your update. Surround yourself with those people who are nearest to you and who are also supportive of your marriage. You can still dress up, have a photographer, and go out for a dinner reception and all of that, but it will be much less of a headache!

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