(Closed) It should not be this difficult, should it?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I thought my parents would care a lot more than they did.  We are Catholic, and the Faith is against cohabitation.  I also told my parents we were moving in together 6 months after we started dating (we were friends before we dated, but still, it was 6 months..).  I explained to them the situation (we were wasting $2,000 a month on rent since we were both paying rent and only using one apartment most of the time) and they were surprisingly okay with it.

Why do you think your parents will be against you moving in together?  You’re 24 years old, you’re supposed to get a job and move out.  Is she holding on, or do you think you’re projecting worst-case scenarios?

Post # 5
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1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My parents were surprisingly chill about it. My dad didn’t approve, but all he did was make his opinion known, I said I appreciated it but was still going to do it, and he moved on. I hope your mom is more understanding than you think! 

Post # 6
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would preface the conversation with “Mom, I’m sure you will have your opinion on this, but I want you to know that my mind is made up already and I am just letting you know my plans.”

 

Post # 8
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2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@newenglandgirl: glad to hear it went well. Don’t let her make you feel guilty. Every parent struggles with letting their children go…unfortunately sometimes that morphs into being a righteous pain about it and making the person feel guilty. You’re grown up and doing what you are supposed to do! Hopefully she’ll handle it better as time goes on. Be strong! I can pretty much guarentee you she’ll have opinions that make you feel the same way down the road…children, living, moving, etc. 

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