(Closed) IT was lost and now IT’S found – why am I so darn sad? (long)

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: You had a moissy set all picked out but found your lost diamond would you:
    Forget Moissy. Spend more money over all to custom a ring with the diamond like planned. : (31 votes)
    25 %
    Sell the diamond and buy all three wedding/engagement rings ( ie practical and responsible) : (33 votes)
    27 %
    Buy rings that are loved. Sell Diamond and use to something else wonderful (honeymoon?) : (39 votes)
    31 %
    Buy rings that are loved and < $. Keep diamond for something else cheaper to fabricate - necklace? : (18 votes)
    15 %
    Redesign custom to use Diamond center with moissy side stones (represent values, highish $$) : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    996 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Sell it. You made it clear its not your taste. And who cares if you only get 30% for it? You didn’t buy it. GL!

    ETA: I think that stone is gorgeous and needs to be worn by someone who will appreciate it.

    Post # 4
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    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Maybe try to sell it on WB?

    Post # 5
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    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I say sell it as well, but definitely shop around so you get the most money.  OH, and haggle.  Say-such and such is willing to give me this…can you beat it?

    Post # 6
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    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Definitely sell it! You do not seem to want it, and keeping it won’t make you happy. Selling it you get rid of something that represents an ideology you don’t like AND get to buy the rings you want and will be happy with for the rest of your life. 

    Seems obvious to this outsider 🙂

    Post # 7
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Sell it, there must be some way you can get better than just 30%!?  And I understand you feeling like you’re buying your own rings… so I voted use it towards something else like the honeymoon 🙂

    Post # 8
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I would go with the custom ring, using the diamond, and try your best to talk your fiance out of a flashy diamond wedding band.

    I personally just couldn’t bear to sell a diamond for 30% of what it’s worth.

    Post # 9
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    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would not sell that diamond.  Agree with @daybyday, it would just seem so wrong to sell a diamond for only 30% of what it’s worth.

    Post # 10
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    What’s your main dilemma? Here’s a couple of suggestions depending on what is really bothering you the most:

    If you hate the cut, have it re-cut.  

    If you’d prefer a non-diamond, sell it.  

    If you feel bad about the ethics of a diamond, make a donation to a children’s charity in Africa. 

    Post # 11
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    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted to keep the diamond to set in a necklace or something and buy your own beloved custom made moisy ring.  Maybe much less practical than just selling the diamond to pay for all your rings, but at least you can think about it more and still have the option to sell later on.  It’s really hard to swallow that you can only get 30% of the diamond value, even if you didn’t pay for it to begin with.  I hope you can haggle though and get a better sale out of it!!!  Try putting it on idonowidont.com or something to see if you get any takers?  I’m not saying I know much about that site or any of the other resale sites but if you do your research to find a good one you might find a better private sale for this diamond.  Good luck!

    Post # 12
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I think you’ve found out the hard way that diamonds don’t hold their “worth”. You will be hard pressed to get more than 30% of what it is worth, because while they are SOLD for a ton of money, they are not WORTH that much. But, at least you got it for free!

    I say go with the moissy, sell the diamond, and go on a nice honeymoon or get more stuff for your wedding!

    Post # 13
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    764 posts
    Busy bee

    The diamond is ONLY worth what you can get for it. Maybe you should tell you SO all of your concerns give him the diamond and let him figure it all out. In an ideal world he would buy  you the ring you want and not even consider the diamond YOU won. You’re not responsible for providing for your own ring anyway. 

    Post # 14
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    1352 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Pele:  I would use the diamond. You have a beautiful diamond that was free! I dont see how leaving a perfectly good diamond sitting in a box or selling it to someone else will make ANY difference in the world. 

    Post # 15
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    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Sell the diamond yourself on classifieds like diamondbistro.com, or on eBay. Don’t consign it unless you absolutely have to.

    Post # 16
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d say sell it or even keep it and make it into some other piece of jewelry later. I wouldn’t want the stone in my e-ring to be named ‘the tycoon,’ either, haha. You could always wear it as a pendant and maybe pass it on to your children one day.

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